Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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lmecklen 02/21/2013

My ex and i have had 1 month no contact and i miss him terribly. He called me yesterday to tell me that his grandma had passed away but he didnt really want to call me his mom told him that he should. He was being so cold and told me that he didnt want to talk cause he doesnt want to get sucked back in. I told him what would be so wrong with that and he said im not want he wants. It hurts to hear that and to know he doesnt even miss me after 6 years :(

deleted_user 02/21/2013

It's hard, but he's obviously moved on. You need to as well. People progress through their grief at different speeds. Since he's the one who broke it off, he is already ahead of you. It is hard to hear that we aren't wanted by someone, but just know that that doesn't mean you aren't worthy of love or are not a good person. You just don't work together anymore. Take time to heal, then get yourself back out there. Also keep the no-contact going because it will help you to heal.

deleted_user 02/21/2013

Hi Imecklen: I wish you had hung up quickly after he said his grandma has passed and you said thanks for the info and hung up. Please don't let him treat you poorly over the phone.

If you can't stop it, then you will have to go NO CONTACT and block him from your phone, your computer, texts, your Facebooks, etc.

I'm not trying to hurt you but trying to break through and let you know that HE DOESN'T MISS YOU and it is hurting you to tell yourself that he does miss you or to want confirmation from him that he does miss you--he makes that plain that he doesn't miss you every time he stabs you with his words and you get terribly hurt. You have to start protecting yourself otherwise he will continue doing this. You are making yourself a very easy target for him. PLease, please, don't do this to yourself.

We can only do so much to help. You have to put up your shields, and that means NO CONTACT because he is not looking to treat you well, and you get hurt. I care and I don't want to see you hurting like this and I can feel the pain through the computer. Please listen to us on here and block him. Many, many hugs.

qunnice 02/22/2013

I agree with Cheryt and AsTimeGoesBy, cut all communications off. you are going to have to go cold turkey. I know how you feel. It hurts real bad. You will get through this.

luvmygirl4 02/22/2013

Nothing good ever comes out of contact for me. Either it will be contentious (which is maybe best) or we will get along fine for whatever we are dealing with and then I start missing her again.

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