Does he have to go by himself? Can someone accompany him?
Instruct your son to call the police at the first sign of trouble. The courts cannot ignore calls of trouble from your son. Safety is a priority.
I will start praying for your son and you.

Thank you Pollo. My little guy is 10. Visitation is to be supervised by my ex mother in law, although she has left him alone. I was told by the courts that I can't prove that either.

This is maddening. Not only is this a drug and alcohol safety issue....but the latest arrest includes "indecent exposure"

Sick...and terrified. I want it all to end. I feel powerless in protecting my child. I basically have to wait for him to be harmed before I can do anything. : (

I dont know what to tell you, I'm at a loss,

but I want you to know I care and am sending support.


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I am so sorry Namaste, that is the worst feeling, worrying about your own child's safety and wellbeing...is there anyone you know in the area, that can kind of keep an eye on things, or your son can call just in case you ex-mil is away (not available)? A neighbor for example?

I am so sorry, namaste, that would be so scary. A ex mother in law is better than no one as she won't let anything happen to her grandson.
I wish I had some comforting words. Again, I am so very sorry you have to go through this.

Namaste - does it make ANY difference your X has, effectively, cut off communication with your son? After many months of no contact, which I know you have mentioned before...how come he HAS to go??

This just doesn't seem right. How can a parent, who has been neglectful and NOW proven to be unfit, be allowed to have your son?

My heart goes out to you, bud. My son is my life too, so I completely empathize.

Namaste,
Like Joy, I don't have anything specific to tell you, just that I'm thinking of you and sending hugs, and support...

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OK--I preface this with: I am not lucky enough to have children, so I'm probably talking out of my butt, but:
"The law guardian refuses to hear me. Im told I have to let him go."
Who is this law guardian, and can they be over-ruled? Surely he/she has a duty to hear your case--they can't just REFUSE to hear you?!?!? Is there someone else that you can appeal to?

The situation sounds blatantly wrong--especially since your exH has not made any attempt to see your son... your son shouldn't be put in danger going to somehting that your exH will likely only appear at 'cos he's literally forced to be there by being incarcerated.

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(Wait--I was assuming he'd still be incarcerated at the holidays, but after reviewing, I guess not?)

Is there any hope of getting a new law guardian who actually has your sons interests in mind?

I too am thinking of you - please know you are not alone in this. I am so sorry you have to deal with this situation.

xoxo

you can't just call a lawyer and have the custody agreement redone? I am so scared of this happening. when we got divorced I asked for full custody and supervised visitation HERE by ME and only IF he keeps his nose clean. but some day that will be changed and I will have ot let my boys go with their insane sex addict alcoholic pil popping felon narcissistic father. he thinks he wants his kids but he wants them liek he wants a sports car. so he has something to show off. he wants nothing to do with really being a father and never has.

My kids are only 1 and 2.

I am so sorry. I know it's so scary. Whenever I get scared at the thought of my kids being alone with their dad I understand a little more why some women stay with their horrible husbands.

call a lawyer and talk to them again. new charges should change things,

Thank you everyone for the support. Its been a very draining 2 days here. Trying to keep myself grounded and centered in this.

The law guardian was assigned by the judge during proceedings. I was told that I can NOT under any circumstance change. i asked this after the first meeting with her as she shares an office with my ex husbands atty. i felt this was a conflict of interest...the judge said no.

In the midst of out proceedings, my ex received his 4th dui. When i found out about this, i immediately called the law guardian, as i had expressed so many concerns about his alcoholism, with proof to back it all up. She refused to look at the documents I provided...records of arrest, military treatment records, etc. When I called her that day to inform her of the dui, she SCREAMED at me on the phone "What the hell do you want me to do about it!!"

WTF? I sternly told her that I was sorry, but I was under the impression she was assigned to PROTECT the best interest of my child. And if she didnt want to do so, I would notify judge myself. She promptly changed her tune, but still didnt do a damn thing.

know why Im so freaked out about this last one? Indecent exposure? Sick. After we split, i found out my ex was on swinger sites emailing pictures of MY son to some of these people. I too, brought that to the courts. They told me that as long as the photos were not sexual in nature, there was nothing wrong with it.

He makes me sick. Seriously. As long as he maintains contact once per year, I cant claim abandonment.

So now...its in the hands of the military.

Not sure what I could change in the orders...I have sole custody. Not sure I could get anything that says he NO visitation at all.

This bites.

just wondering...how much trouble can you get in, if you refuse to let your son go anymore?

I could loose my custody of him.....see where Im coming from? :(

even in the face of all this neglect and evidence?

you really think so?