Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Yesterday my ex texted me asking if I was ok. I said yeah that I was just thinking a little, I was thinking about my feelings towards her since she was the one who broke up with me. She keep asking me if I need to talk and I said I’m fine and was asking me if it was bad. She continued to ask me what it was for multiple hours and I told her multiple times i wasn’t ready to talk about it with her yet. She kept asking me if it was something awful about it and it wasn’t. I finally had to tell her I need to get my head clear and fix myself before I can tell her. She asked me what’s the point of her asking if I don’t tell her, which is kind of hypocritical of her since she does the same thing. I asked why does it matter so much and she seemed to hint at still caring about me by saying it looked like it was really bothering you. I don’t know how to feel about my ex now or how she feels about me.
It sounds like you might base how you feel about her on how she feels about you. If you've learned one thing in this process I hope its that you can't do that. You need to be true to yourself.
To get to the heart of what you're really asking...she probably has regrets at least in the moment. She probably misses you and the attention you gave her, especially after she wanted to leave. The thing is, its totally self serving. If she cared how you really felt she'd leave it alone. She wants you to open up to fill a need she has, and once you do she may just discard you again. I'd keep working on you and let her think you've moved on, even if you are just only beginning that process. Don't make yourself an easy target.
No Contact. Heal yourself.
You want her back or what? If you want her back tell her so. If you don't want her back. tell her so.
She left you. You either find out why, adjust yourself, and go back - or you carry on.