Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Hello everyone!,
I would like to first start off by thanking you for reading this post...it means a lot...and secondly, whoever feels hurt, betrayed, brokenhearted, and sad I can easily understand how you feel. :: HUGS::
NOW...my "sob" story.
I was with this wonderful boy who stole my heart away before I could realize. To preface, I suffer with terrible anxierty, panic disorder, and family problems (my mom is mentally ill to an extreme and my dad is currently recovering from surgery). My now ex-boyfriend has his own issues with family and studying for an exam called the CFA.
We were incredibly happy, to the point where he would plan out his future with me in it....Bon jovi concert, moving in, owning a dog together, etc. It seemed so possible and I was so happy to wake up every morning know he loved me and I loved him.
A few weeks have gone by and he starts treating me like a friend and not acting his usual self. I understand he is stressed but to not treat me with love and kindness is a big blow...
This is also hard to say but right before he broke it off we had sex and he covered my face with a pillow during the act....he said he was kidding....I was so hurt.
So in short, he broke up with me Monday at my house and I just lost it. I was crying so hard I could not breath and my eyes were burning. Then, I heard a knock at the door; it was him. He said sorry, he made a mistake...all this stuff. I immediately took him back. Tuesday we spend together at a hockey game and I couldnt act like I was okay. He HURT me....BAD! how do I know he won't change his mind? or decides when things get rough again to break it off? I cannot handle that..
So I told him I couldn't do it and he said he understands and that I was the best and blah blah blah. I hung up the phone and cried...I haven't really stopped since.
WHAT SHOULD I DO?? I am hurting so much with all that is going on and he was my best friend/rock/lover/everything.....a part of me wishes he would make it ok and be back to the way we were....I just know I can't deal with anymore pain from him...
I would like to first start off by thanking you for reading this post...it means a lot...and secondly, whoever feels hurt, betrayed, brokenhearted, and sad I can easily understand how you feel. :: HUGS::
NOW...my "sob" story.
I was with this wonderful boy who stole my heart away before I could realize. To preface, I suffer with terrible anxierty, panic disorder, and family problems (my mom is mentally ill to an extreme and my dad is currently recovering from surgery). My now ex-boyfriend has his own issues with family and studying for an exam called the CFA.
We were incredibly happy, to the point where he would plan out his future with me in it....Bon jovi concert, moving in, owning a dog together, etc. It seemed so possible and I was so happy to wake up every morning know he loved me and I loved him.
A few weeks have gone by and he starts treating me like a friend and not acting his usual self. I understand he is stressed but to not treat me with love and kindness is a big blow...
This is also hard to say but right before he broke it off we had sex and he covered my face with a pillow during the act....he said he was kidding....I was so hurt.
So in short, he broke up with me Monday at my house and I just lost it. I was crying so hard I could not breath and my eyes were burning. Then, I heard a knock at the door; it was him. He said sorry, he made a mistake...all this stuff. I immediately took him back. Tuesday we spend together at a hockey game and I couldnt act like I was okay. He HURT me....BAD! how do I know he won't change his mind? or decides when things get rough again to break it off? I cannot handle that..
So I told him I couldn't do it and he said he understands and that I was the best and blah blah blah. I hung up the phone and cried...I haven't really stopped since.
WHAT SHOULD I DO?? I am hurting so much with all that is going on and he was my best friend/rock/lover/everything.....a part of me wishes he would make it ok and be back to the way we were....I just know I can't deal with anymore pain from him...
I know you are hurting now but you are young and have your whole life ahead of you. Don't waste another minute on this immature loser. You deserve better.
i never thought of it as emotional abuse to be honest....
I am doing my best to keepy busy and not worry
Then for him to break up with you, then come right back and say it was a mistake--I also think it was abusive.
This guy is not a good guy and my red flags are out huge on this guy that you want to stay away from him. That the longer you were with him, the more he would be abusing you and just telling you it was just kidding or a mistake. There's no kidding or mistake about abuse.
also, he wasn't your best friend because a real friend doesn't do that stuff to you. So NO CONTACT with him and block him from your phone, your texts, from Facebook and don't open the door to him. You get him out of your life before he physically hurts you. Take care and many hugs.
P.S. I was an abused wife and I can smell abuse from the guy you were seeing.
Stick with your decision and mend your broken heart. Right now its about you tending to yourself. The rest will come as it comes whether he is in your life or not.
be true to you.
welcome to the group