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How many have heard a friend or acquaintence utter the phrase, "I;m ok, just a bit guarded with my thoughts/emotions and heart"
As 2012 rolls in, are there any things you feel ok letting your guard down about, or are there more that put you in a defensive posture?
For me, certain aspects of naiveness have come to my attention, and to those, I hope to open my eyes a wee bit, become less guarded and delve into finding a solution rather than turning a blind eye. I also think I will be more guarded in many personal aspects, try to not wear my heart on the sleeve badge any longer, reserve that quality/curse for those who resist temptation to prosper over my own blunders.
What say you, those who have survived 2011, and are embracing 2012?
As 2012 rolls in, are there any things you feel ok letting your guard down about, or are there more that put you in a defensive posture?
For me, certain aspects of naiveness have come to my attention, and to those, I hope to open my eyes a wee bit, become less guarded and delve into finding a solution rather than turning a blind eye. I also think I will be more guarded in many personal aspects, try to not wear my heart on the sleeve badge any longer, reserve that quality/curse for those who resist temptation to prosper over my own blunders.
What say you, those who have survived 2011, and are embracing 2012?
so yes - my guard is up until i get to know someone - friendship, co-worker, partner, etc. i think thats healthy. at least it is for me.
if i start to feel defensive about something, i try to step back and see why i am defensive. if it is because its something i am working on, then i sort it out and respond to it accordingly. if its something disrespectful and someone is being ignorant or trying to push my buttons, depending on my mood i usually try to face it and talk to them about it.
its hard to say tho - im not planning on diving into a relationship anytime soon - but i know with other relationships i have had, including the one with my exhusband, i wasnt expecting it. i was swept away by the emotions - the energy. thats the fun part right? i dont want to lose that part of it - i just want to be realistic about things too.
i dont know. i dont feel like i am answering your question.
Similar to the serenity prayer, knowing the difference is paramount. JMO
I've been opening up and becoming much more honest with others and myself because of this grief. it actually puts the ball in the other's court when we are honest, "yes I did eat the last cookie and I'm sorry." Now what does the accuser say?