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After being locked away in a dark and dank dungeon, it is very painful to the eyes upon entering the light of day.
There are three choices, I think.
1) Confront the full force of the Sun's rays, knowing the pain will eventually pass.
2) Seek shade and allow our eyes to slowly adjust to the light.
3) Retreat back into the dungeon, saving our sense of sight from the pain of being exposed to the brilliance of the Sun.
I'd take option # 2.
There are three choices, I think.
1) Confront the full force of the Sun's rays, knowing the pain will eventually pass.
2) Seek shade and allow our eyes to slowly adjust to the light.
3) Retreat back into the dungeon, saving our sense of sight from the pain of being exposed to the brilliance of the Sun.
I'd take option # 2.
I still want to dance, I love being around the sea, sipping wine or girly drinks like mimosas, and such. I didn't close my world to all. Being radical has never been my cup of tea. I believe there are many shades of grey and life is not black and white.
Finding new love is always a challenge in any age and also a choice.
I think the ego might disagree with that assessment. ;-)
I lead with my heart and it made me an easy target
so although the sentiments are beautiful, they seem to me much like Marxism, great on paper, but not very realistic
:-)
@CMondo: i hear ya, brother. as an older man, i find it easier than ever to wall up and become narrow. i am trying to figure out the best ways to reverse the process that i have kind of fallen into.
@Just: ego is a powerful ally when used properly. but, it sure isn't easy to control sometimes. thank goodness that we have friends and family that will humble us from time to time, eh?
@Joy: i don't know about Marxism, but, I do believe in the value of Judeo-Christian values and ethics where the heart leads. without religious values and ethics, I doubt if I would have made it this far. this sometimes harsh world will crush people who drift too far away.
One of the problems with ego, I think, is we can't control it. When we start to think we can, that in fact is ego tricking us to do its bidding.
From my perspective, the best way to deal with ego is not fight it. We can't fight it, control it or banish it. Just sit back and detach. Observe it but don't engage and don't judge. Think of it as being a covert operative. ;-)
To me that's the most powerful and productive form of introspection. It can and does lead us to all the harmful defenses ego has constructed.