Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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officiallytryingtomoveon 02/01/2017

today I just wanna die. How the hell do I miss my ex?? He was once again cheating on me! He punched me in the face multiple times. How do I feel so horrible?! Why do I wanna see him? Why do I feel like my life is over? I don't understand!! I hate it! No one understands. If it was one of my friends I wouldn't understand either . My heart is so heavy. My birthday is in 5 days, and the Super Bowl and Valentine's Day. We had plans for everything! Now I feel alone and like I'm walking through a mist. I don't wanna leave bed, I feel like my life is going nowhere. I'll never have anyone else. I'll never share what I shared with him. What is wrong with me?!!! It was 4 years or complete stress being with him but we did have our good times. We were together every single day. How did it get to this???

Why do I want that back? This hole in my chest and in my heart is slowly killing me. I just want it to end

justlikemusic 02/01/2017

I'm sorry you're going through all of this. Breakups and horrific and the healing process is even harder but believe me you will feel better with time. The hard part is living day by day, hour by hour, minute by minute. It feels eternal and like you'll never be able to overcome this. Best/effective yet HARDEST remedy is NO contact. It feels agonizing at first but after a while it makes you feel much better..then it knowing, hearing or talking to your ex helps A LOT even if in the beginning it feels almost impossible to do.

Also, it seems like you might be codependent I say this because I am codependent and a lot of the feelings and characteristics you described felt very familiar. I went to therapy due to childhood abuse and my breakup and through the help of my therapist realized that I'm codependent. I now go to codependent anonymous meetings and it's saved me. Maybe you should consider going when you're ready. I'm still healing but I feel MUCH better and when I look back at October when we broke up, it will be 4 months and I cannot believe the progress I've truly made.

Beast of luck. Take care. You're not alone.

Nick2017 03/06/2017

I hope u made it. just know the emotional attachment is real and very strong.. totally illogical..but real. u can't fight it alone u will need help and therapy. people r just crual...I can't never leave some who needs me even if I don't love that person. at least until she can recover first before I leave.

solitary1 03/07/2017

I so identify with this. I feel this way as well. I am also most likely codependent with my sober ex addict. I feel like I am dying too. It's the worst.

mirandac 03/07/2017

Solitary, thats why they have alanon or
CODA meetings. Also having a good
therapist Will help you a lot too. HUGS

Nick2017 03/07/2017

for the longest time I felt so depressed. for what I feel I cannot find someone to share it with. since I came to this site. I felt better knowing there are people who suffer like me or even worse than me . I wish u all luck in your recovery. and anyone who needs just someone to talk to are welcome to message me. sometime all we need is another compassionate soul.

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