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Dread going home...

BlindsidedHurt1
BlindsidedHurt1

Used to look forward to 5:00 p.m.  Would run home, kiss him hello, ask how his day was. That seems so long ago when I was still oblivious. Now I have a ball of dread in my stomach as the day winds down. I want to see his car in the driveway. If it's not, I know he is with her. It's been two weeks. When will this end? I haven't read much mention of medications helping you all through this, but I've never taken meds in my life - I have yet to have a drink of alcohol.   Now, I find myself reaching for an Ativan to take away the overwhelming anxiety. 


I haven't eaten or slept well. But at least today, I have been trying to accept that divorce is immenent. But that thought goes away because I hang on to his words, "I'm trying to fall back in love with you."   Please don't bash me....I know you don't TRY at falling back in love. But it's all I have left to hold on to.


Wishing you all a peaceful evening. Thank you for giving me a place to vent. 



  

Luvnlifelady
Luvnlifelady
I know the feeling all too well. My DD drove his car here one night and it made me freeze as I drove down the street and saw it. Didn't know she drove it.
It's been 2 months and I still don't have an appetite. Have lost a lot of weight.
You are not alone although it may feel like it. I'm also facing a health concern now and of course financial goes without saying. Message me if you want someone to talk to. It's hard no matter how you slice it. I am 51 and we were married 22 years.
BlindsidedHurt1
BlindsidedHurt1
Thank you. All these years I've never had to think about finances and retiring.I don't know what I'll be left with. 20 years of building a house and it's being destroyed. I can't think of starting over.
serenityspeaks
serenityspeaks
A breakup is overwhelming anxiety! I won't take meds but the anxiety at times is too much. I feel for you and your pain:( its completely normal to hang on and almost at war with yourself about the reality of what is happening.
beanjr
beanjr
keep your head up. it's natural for hoping it will go back. I to hope my wife gets the feeling back. we are just separated right now. but it does hurt. i hope for the best for you. and stay healthy
Completelydevastated
Completelydevastated
I know how you feel. I pray his car will be in the driveway everyday when I come home too. I used to rush home each day to be with him too and so looked forward to the weekends with him. Now I dread each Friday because I know he is going to spend the weekend with her.
He says he is working on "undoing" things with her so he can come home but he has not come home yet and I am terrified that he will change his mind each day.
I just feel so weary. The loneliness and sadness and fear combined with not eating or sleeping is so overwhelming
BlindsidedHurt1
BlindsidedHurt1
CompletelyDevaststed - you just said EXACTLY what I am feeling. Exactly. Is it nice to know I'm not alone in my pain? No, I wish no-one could feel this bad.
1Daatatime
1Daatatime
I know how you feel. I now live alone in the middle of the national forest on a cattle farm. I thought this was our retirement dream. She's trying to fall back in love with me but we all know what that means. I have no friends or family. The closest town is 25 miles away and it's only 700 people. Five o'clock comes and so does the depression.
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