Breakups & Divorce Support Group
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Its been a pretty long time since I've been on here. I do come in and check every now and then, but now Im here for support, again.
My x's father died three days ago. My x and I told our kids, (8 and 5) yesterday and then he took them with him to be with the family. (its my weekend, but considering the circumstances...)
I went to church today, as I do on every Sunday (!) and the WHOLE family was there. I got snubbed by two of his siblings, and one did hug me. Some of his nephews and a neice hugged me. My children were there, sitting with him and his gf, and the rest of the family. Oh, and I did hug his mother and told her how sorry I was for her loss and she said, I know you are. I think that was good.
I am just an emotional wreck. His father did not like me after we seperated, and I really didnt care for him, either, but, a loss is a loss.
I dont know how I feel. I just dont. Im sorry for him and his family, and for my children, but Im really feeling weird.
What is this emotion and how do I get over it?
I have a phrase I use now: Im sorry for the way I left him, but I know I did the right thing for me and my children.
Im just so confused and Im not sure any body gets that.
I cant wait until tues when this is all over. The funeral is tomorrow, and I am going to that, but thats it. I know I have to walk in there with my head high knowing I am a strong, good woman. Right?
Im an idiot, arent I? LOL
My x's father died three days ago. My x and I told our kids, (8 and 5) yesterday and then he took them with him to be with the family. (its my weekend, but considering the circumstances...)
I went to church today, as I do on every Sunday (!) and the WHOLE family was there. I got snubbed by two of his siblings, and one did hug me. Some of his nephews and a neice hugged me. My children were there, sitting with him and his gf, and the rest of the family. Oh, and I did hug his mother and told her how sorry I was for her loss and she said, I know you are. I think that was good.
I am just an emotional wreck. His father did not like me after we seperated, and I really didnt care for him, either, but, a loss is a loss.
I dont know how I feel. I just dont. Im sorry for him and his family, and for my children, but Im really feeling weird.
What is this emotion and how do I get over it?
I have a phrase I use now: Im sorry for the way I left him, but I know I did the right thing for me and my children.
Im just so confused and Im not sure any body gets that.
I cant wait until tues when this is all over. The funeral is tomorrow, and I am going to that, but thats it. I know I have to walk in there with my head high knowing I am a strong, good woman. Right?
Im an idiot, arent I? LOL
Now, the emotion your feeling is Empathy, you're subconsciously putting yourself in that family and feeling the loss of the patriarch. Aside from that, you WERE in that family for quite a while and gave him wonderful grandchildren, I'm sure there are some beautiful memories you have of him being a grandfather. As to whether or not you should go? Well, My stbx's grandmother is dying as I type, however, I will not go unless asked to by her. I love Grandma, as all grandmas should be loved, but I will respect her families right and her right to feel completely comfortable to let their grief out.
The funeral really isn't about the person who passed, it's about the family that's left behind and how to help them and show your support while they go through this very, very difficult time. It's about making their last memory of that person a beautiful and respectful goodbye. If you can add to that, do so. If you can't, don't go.