I have to talk myself through most moments definitely at night. Crying is just normal at this point I totally understand I miss every moment and still don’t understand why it’s over. I’m so sorry your hurting you not alone! Hugs!

Its good to talk your mind, coz it keeps on building and creating love between

Love you mwaaa

some days it is just okay to stay in bed! Be gentle with yourself. I felt like that after my first divorce but I luckily had young kids and they kept me busy, truly a blessing in disguise. Now after divorce #3 (ugh) it did not hit me very hard. So don't beat yourself up

I’m sorry your feeling this way. You have to find the positive and try to move on. I have been in a similar situation for the last few months. Every day is different. Somedays I’m energetic and feel I’ve got this. He is not worth anymore of my energy, And somedays, like yesterday, I cry myself to sleep. Wondering how could he be okay with where we are today? I’ve spent 17 years, married 8, with a man who really didn’t care for me the way I thought he did. It hurts, but I’m trying my best to move on. I can’t see past the cheating and lies.

Thanks all...I know this is normal...I just want normal to be...... normal--boring--no drama--no pain...

On top of this I had to get him taken off my lease. They needed his approval to do that, and emailed him for permission. It upset me how quickly I heard back that they had gotten it and would be sending the new lease later today. Almost like he couldn't wait to get out of here.............

I could really relate to your msg today. Feeling really down myself. At times i wish i could forget all the memories, the good and the bad. He broke us with cheating and lies and wanted to work things out but i coud not be happy anymore. Not happy with him and not happy without him. Its a horrible place to be. I know everyone says we deserve better, i guess it's just getting to that point that is so difficult. Sending strength your way xx

Got the new (memoryfoam) mattress--had to get it upstairs (3rd floor) by myself, but it's here. I ended up cutting up the old one with my electric knife and am dragging it down to the dumpster a bit at a time. I think cutting it up helped my mind (as well as my back). And the new ones not so bad--my dog hopped right on and is taking a nap. And maybe I'll start sleeping in the middle of the bed now.....

Thx 1-day. That's exactly how I'm feeling. Even if we were together I could never trust him and never be truly happy. But I'm miserable without him. Life can be so stupid...........

Get a hobby. I took up golf after my divorce and I will soon get a pilots license. Pick something you are interested in that you never did with your spouse, no memories.

Like today, I feel bad, then find a golf tournament to watch on TV. I eat at a different restaurant every night, alone, but I am okay with it. My divorce is recent. And keeping my sanity was a must.

You get new habits without them. Mine keeps me in her life. I am in the not sure what to do next phase. I am 47. But, in the meantime just keep busy. Your new interests will fill your mind with new thoughts.

Whatever you do, do not sit and ruminate over your relationship.

Hi there, I know you are hurting but I commend you for making steps to move on. You are holding on to the memories causing you to hurt more. Think about the good things you shared together and what made you a better person. We should be able to take something positive out of every relationship we’ve been in. If you can, that is a wonderful blessing that you should treasure as you can now build upon that when you enter another relationship. If you can’t take anything positive from the relationship, than it probably was toxic or just not a good relationship for you and its time to move on. You are more than any relationship you enter with anyone. You should love yourself more than any other person can love you, you should respect yourself more than any other person will respect you, and you should value yourself more than any other person could. No one can fulfill all our needs so at best when we enter into these relationships of the unknown, we should live in the moment, make great memories, and welcome what’s to come if it ends and be thankful for the time shared. I had to do this recently when I reminisced over a relationship that I was in over 20 years ago. It broke my heart when he broke up with me (I was 8 months pregnant, but not with his child). I started dating him when I found out I was about 3-4 weeks pregnant (another story for another day). We dated for 8 months or so and then out of the blue he broke up with me. Talk about an emotional mess. Though I was pregnant, I considered suicide because every plan, idea, dream, and hope I had for us was now destroyed. What a waste of my time especially when I see what I have today. The pain sometimes resurfaces when I go digging for information about him such as whether or not he married or has children. He in fact did remarry and he has two children. It seems like he has had a fairytale life and has it all together (at least on FB). Finding that information did not help me at all because I compared his life to mine. I would say let go and completely let go and don’t look back. Don’t try to be his friend on FB. Don’t keep photos of you two on your phone, etc. Any reminder of him should either be boxed up or thrown away in my opinion. You will heal from this but it takes time. Focus on yourself and what makes you happy and not necessarily getting involved with someone else right now. You need to heal from this relationship so that you reduce the emotional baggage you bring into the next relationship (which we all unfortunately do). Good luck and know that you are not alone. Take care of your animals, take the dog out, and you get out of the house and enjoy life. There are over seven billion people in the world. You are bound to meet someone else who will sweep you off your feet.