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Ok so I am planning on doing something crazy today. Today i am turning 25! i want this to me the mark of a new beginning for me. I hope that lne day, someone will be worth my tears.
I am at a park near a river. I have my wedding ring, a letter to husband (soon to be ex). It felt so good writing him a letter even tho he will never read it. I am sticking the ring and the note in a bottle and chucking it in the water. Sounds so stupid right? I know... But idk why I feel like this but it feels right.
I want to be happy. I don't want to need someone to make me happy. This person has shown me they have no soul or remorse for anything and I guess that wasn't the person for me.
I grew up in a home where both of my parents respected and loved each other. Yes they had their problems but separating was never an option. They worked hard and have achieved 26 years of marriage.
I want the same. I want someone to want to work when thins get hard. I've had a hard time wondering how could this man be so "ideal" and BOOM
switch into a nightmare. He was great because things were great, there were no real issues. BUT when things became hard.... He ran. And I have realized that marriage isn't about being together through the good, but it's being together through the bad too.
I am rambling, just because I am feeling a lot of mixed emotions.
I am at a park near a river. I have my wedding ring, a letter to husband (soon to be ex). It felt so good writing him a letter even tho he will never read it. I am sticking the ring and the note in a bottle and chucking it in the water. Sounds so stupid right? I know... But idk why I feel like this but it feels right.
I want to be happy. I don't want to need someone to make me happy. This person has shown me they have no soul or remorse for anything and I guess that wasn't the person for me.
I grew up in a home where both of my parents respected and loved each other. Yes they had their problems but separating was never an option. They worked hard and have achieved 26 years of marriage.
I want the same. I want someone to want to work when thins get hard. I've had a hard time wondering how could this man be so "ideal" and BOOM
switch into a nightmare. He was great because things were great, there were no real issues. BUT when things became hard.... He ran. And I have realized that marriage isn't about being together through the good, but it's being together through the bad too.
I am rambling, just because I am feeling a lot of mixed emotions.
And where's the cake?!
It does offer symbolic closure.
I think it's great that you have a "ritual" planned for the letter and the ring. I've been at a loss as to what to do with the rings and other jewelery from my ex-husband, so they are boxed away in my closet where I don't have to look at them. I think what you are doing is inspiring! And, happy birthday to you!
Happy Birthday! Let this be a sign of strength and encouragement for you.
FWIW, separation/divorce was the last thing I ever wanted in my life, but looking back on it a year and a half later, I am now way happier in my life now, than I was when I was married to my ex (athough at the time, I thought I was very happy in my marriage--it's only now in hindsight that ai can see I'm really better off now).
At the time, I didn't see how I'd ever feel happy again, after my heart was broken and my dreams for the future shattered--but here I am to say, it gets so much better!
So I hope that this helps you feel hopeful about your future happiness!
I think you gave yourself a terrific present. The ring and letter--What a terrific idea. I'm hoping it gave you a sense of closure. I bet it did.
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