If this is the same guy you posted about before, who you didn't think was that into you, I'd see red flags.

No because it is not my money. What did he want you to do move in?

I'm confuse as to what you are asking. Are you asking if a guy would think it is a bad thing you receive child support?

Heck, I would think he would be impressed that you are managing and not asking him for anything. But, some men are afraid of competent women.

naw... I didn't see anythign wrong with it!

yes same guy... is it a bad answer or topic overall? I don't splurge or waste my money. I still do enjoy a cocktail at times, I have to keep living my life, just cutting back some.

I wonder if this is a red flag to him? I felt that not telling him from the start would be like lying, this is something I would need to know from a guy when we first meet.


Lee

Thanks Alone,
he wouldn't allow me to pay for dinners/dates, but I did once when I wanted to take him to an authentic sushi restaurant I knew he would love. He didn't offer to buy me a new dryer when I discussed how I would like to have a newer energy efficient one, but found coupons for Lowe's appliances and offered (almost hinting I think) to go with me, but I told him I didn't need a new one, just WANTED a better one so it will have to wait until I find a job.

I just don't know if this last conversation we had surrounding child support had anything to do with how he is feeling about me. Guys, does your blood boil having to pay child support if the other parent is using it for the right reasons as far as you know?

If a women told me she was not working that would be fine we just wont go to $100 dinners. I dont go to $100 dinners now.

I wonder if maybe you have read too much into this relationship. I know I don't know all the details. But I thought you posted about him not contacted you for awhile before. I really don't know how to answer your question. Why would that bother a man? Well I am new to all this so I really don't have a clue. Men think I am rich because I was married to a doctor. Ha ya right.

Went almost 2 weeks no contact, and now it's sporadic and I haven't replied in a while myself bc I'm not sure if it is healthy for me to start developing feelings for him if I continue this sort of relationship.

Mayb I did read too much into the relationship... he brought me small gifts to say he is thinking of me, gave me his swimmers's manual from his lifeguard days as I was learning to swim (showed he cared I thought), introduced me to his co-workers (isn't that a sign of respect?), pointed out his church to me, shared his dream home with me,...

I just wish I could put a finger on it considering he is the first guy I dated since my divorce. if anything at all, it could be Dating 101 for me.

Are you worried that he is bitter about having to pay child support? are you getting the feeling that he believes you are getting support from one man and that is enough? It may be that .... and he may be squeezed himself.

To offer you 1 response to your follow-on question about "boiling blood'.... When we were separated, I happily gave my stbx $672 for CS & SM [combined] every other Friday without the need of a court order. It wasn't enough [according to stbx] and HER blood boiled because 100% of take-home pay no longer went to the joint checking account.

At the same time I gave my 18 y.o. daughter $50 bi-weekly just so she wouldn't trigger her mom every other day.

supporting your kids & their mom isn't an issue for a good man. If this guy appears bitter about it. RED FLAG move on.

Deramo

p.s. I bought her a new dryer while we were separated.

I think you are really hoping to make it with this guy but he's sending out all sorts of mixed messages. He's not calling as often, seems concerned about your financial situation but then backs off when you talk about it, etc.

Maybe it's time to walk away from this one before you get hurt. Just a suggestion.

Thanks hurting...

I should and will, just haven't come to that yet.


Lee

I'm a guy who will be getting child support. Sounds okay to me. I just hope I don't have to sick lawyers to get what I need to help take care of them.