Breakups & Divorce Support Group
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Here's the scenario....I went to the Baltimore Meetup...which I had a blast at by the way...met some great people and of course saw the old ones which I love. But I find out yesterday from my 6 year old that daddy had HER over the house, along with a friend of ours. I have told him I don't want her in MY house. WTF, the lack of respect. I have told him....what more can I say. I am so fucking upset yesterday and today about this ( and to boot it's a Monday) but I can't even say a thing to him. Obviously that doesn't do any good. Maybe he thinks I still don't know about it...I am sure that is it. Before you all say something, I have not moved out b/c the kids need to be here..I want to be with my kids. He won't move out for maybe the same reason..don't know. Until the marital assets are divided, I can't go anywhere b/c I don't want to leave my kids. I have to suck this up. It's not the fact of him being with her, those two can have each other, it's the fact I am still in this house and he chooses to ignore my wishes. What a fucking set of brass balls. Has anyone had this same issue or have any real advice besides killing him. If I say something I will just start an argument and I have an ulcer the way it is. I have no place to go...no family or friends I could stay with so that is not an option. I don't know what to do anymore.
Sorry you have to go through this and being in the same house is just plain torture - especially with a self-centered SOB.
Maybe you could ask a male coworker over for dinner....make sure the SOB is home...candlelight...the whole 9 yards. See how he likes it!
Second, I cannot believe the situation you're in. That would set me back like a HUNDRED and 20 steps.
My impractical advice would be to put a hit on him, but that wouldn't do anyone any good in the long run. :) My only practical advice would be to try and take steps to get him out of the house - tell your lawyer that this happened, and see if he/she can use this (and anything else you have) to oust him. Living together must be an unholy nightmare - especially if he has a girlfriend. I can only imagine the pain it's causing you.
Hang in there... best of luck. ((hugs))
I'm sorry, but he doesn't respect you or our wishes, and I think RedR has it exactly right.
Usually the only thing that is wet after, is the blanket... a red fluid, blending with whatever color the blanket is.