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Strong4me2017
Strong4me2017

Well it's over went to court this week. It was so hard seeing him and He brought his girlfriend which made it worse. But I got through it without crying. The weird thing is that when I went home it felt like i was going home alone for the first time. Everyone keeps asking me how I feel now and I don't know how to answer I feel numb like my heart has shut down because it can't take anymore hurt. I deleted him from my phone today before i did I went back through my texts I still have texts from him from this time last year and the one that stuck out the most was one saying " I love you and I won't ever love anyone else but you you are my wife and that will never change" that was a year ago it's hard to believe how much things can change in just one year . I'm sick with a cold right now which sucks and it sucks even more being alone and sick. I keep thinking that he will come in with Orange juice and won ton soup my favorite food when I'm sick. I miss having someone it's hard being alone  

MovingOn2
MovingOn2
Take care of yourself. It sucks right now but this is temporary.
Songbird2582
Songbird2582
He brought his girlfriend?????? I don't know how the settlement went, but even if you walked away with only the clothes on your back, you still won. Big time. What a dirtbag.
Songbird2582
Songbird2582
And my Christian upbringing will not allow me to type the word I have to describe the girlfriend. But, I sure am thinking it.
sleepless1
sleepless1
I hope you feel better soon. He brought her? What the hell? Insensitive. You don't need that. Someone will come along and sweep you off your feet and you will wonder why in the world you ever wasted a day trying to hang on to this one. Hugs!
jel
jel
MovingOn gave some good advice, do take care of yourself. Though it's hard right now because of the hurt, betrayal and love you may still feel for your ex spouse, slowly you'll feel better and realize that life goes on, the sun does shine, and you can be in love again. But for now, if you're someone who believes in Christ and prayer, I'd recommend doing a lot of it to lift up your spirit. And I'd also recommend reading books that bring hope and where people triumph over difficult situations. They'll help encourage you that you too will overcome this trial. And if you can take it, even pushing through the mourning (because a sort of death has occurred), by watching a few sad films, but also funny ones so as to remember that life has ups and downs. Though my trial day was different (I was alone), I remember the lonely feeling afterwards, like a part of me had been cut off. It's been over 15 years, and I still remember that, but trust me it passes (and it didn't take 15 years to do so ;) ). So I'll say a pray and you hang in there! When you feel ready, go out with friends, connect with a group (church, association, sports, etc.) Remain engaged in life.