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eribroken123
eribroken123


After a very long process about 10 months I finally come to terms that I am going to get Divorce.......My STBX is the one seeking a divorce after 16 years of marriage...I am still very much in love with him and adore our 2 kids......However my STBX hates me  and treats me horrible verbally - He is constantly putting me down and looks for any opportunity to blame me about everything.  We are finally and the end of the road - The paper will be serve to me April 20th and from there in my state we will only have to wait 4 months and everything will be done.  I have a very heave internal conflict.....I wish I can stop loving him and feeling for him.....We have been one for so long that I don't know how to function as a single person........I miss him having him next to me and even feeling the warmest of his body......I know it is time to let go but I wish we are all told HOW...........I reach for the phone constantly hoping to call him and share with him how I feel but I know that HE is no longer the same person I was in love with.......I NEED TO LET GO really bad....I am afraid that I will stay alone forever and that no one will want me..............I know I need to focus on the kids which I am doing but I miss my other half......


I Hate my life and specially how all of this is affecting my kids


mirandac
mirandac
Eri, i hope you have a good lawyer in your Corner
and also that they are watching your back.

I hope and pray you get onto abuse therapy just for
"YOU" so you can get better and also Attending a
Divorce care group that would also help you get
Some additional support, take care of yourself And
your children. HUGS
debstar
debstar
*I am so sorry you are going through this. Please buy/download The Breakup Bible. It is helping me tremendously. You are NOT alone and you will heal and find love again. Being in the midst of this is very tough and unfortunately only time and much reflection may help you heal and move on. One exercise to try is to write down everything that was wrong with the relationship. Write down everything and review it daily. Right now you are in 'hero worship' stage - remembering everything absolutely wonderful about your STBX. Good luck and much love and hugs for you.
eribroken123
eribroken123
Thank you both for the positive words....unfortunately I wish that I can re-write my story with my husband...I know that there was fault from me and him on the relationship. However it is hard to make him see that not all problems can be blame on me. I still love him very much and I wish I can find a way to take him out of my heart. I think I will never be able to do that because he gave me the most beautiful gift my two kids. Sometimes I wonder if maybe when we are done with the divorce he might come back to me again requesting us to be a family once again.......I know I must be dreaming but I could give my life for him and that is not a good thing - SInce he is already move on and involve with someone else already.
kqvlv2017
kqvlv2017
I am so sorry for this emotional pain you are experiencing. I know it absolutely feels horrible now and feels like it will always be this hard but in time it will be better. Eventually you will be able to be thankful for the relationship with your husband BECAUSE of the gift of your children, but you will no longer have lingering feelings for him. In my experience it takes time and the help of a good counselor/therapist to help you process and heal. Are you doing any individual counseling?