I feel your pain, Michael. There is no easy way through it, only better ways. Right now your broken heart will put a bad spin on everything, and honestly there will be some truth to all of it. Yes she is seeming insensitive with a cheerful demeanor, but how would you perceive her crying all the time? Hope? If she has no reason to feel bitter towards you, I suspect she is innocently hurting you more. If she is bitter and resentful, then it may have a more nefarious purpose. I know that for me, minimizing the contact preferably by removing myself from close proximity makes things easier. There is no need to falsely imitate her happy attitude as deceit never results in good. Having said that, there is also no good wallowing or pushing your traumatized heart in her face. You need to focus on yourself, independent from her. Set small step goals for yourself to develop your independence. Don't get mired in your pain nor should you ignore it. Face it and look to the future. If you feel the need to cry (we all do), cry with purpose and conviction. It is healing over time. Journal your feelings to help define them and process them. We are all here for you. You are going to make it, brother, and you will come out of this better. You are in my prayers.

Let your F&E out thats what we are here for. The
Whole process is full of grief, misery, rejection, Hurt
and pain. And lots of uncomfortable feelings And
emotions and also triggers that will come And go.

You think you are doing okay then here you go
All over again back down in that rabbit hole. Grief
has its own timeline and journey. During the Actual
divorce I was often in overload and overwhelm.

I personally like therapy and divorce care myself it
helped Being with others going thru the same things.
And getting one on one support, help and guidance
From a Therapist.

Most people will get tired of hearing about your F&E
So post on here often. Great group of supportive people.
We are all at various stages since our divorce/breakup.
HUGS

Hi
I am 2 weeks away from finalizing my divorce. I got married about 16 years ago thinking that this person was the love of my life however about 1 year ago he came to me asking for the Divorce.......I begged him to work things out because of the kids and our long history and he said NO.......For about one year I went thru a very long process trying to accept and understand that it is possible that he stopped loving me .....The hard part of my story and similar to you is that he still lives in my house so today I have him and the kids under the same roof because of financial reasons......I really dislike this because I want a clean break from my life but it has not happen......I see him daily and still have feeling for him - I wish I can learn to hate him but my love will always be stronger than the hate......

I'm sorry. I have been where you are. it is very hard to share the same space. She may seem happy but it's probably just an act...she probably doesn't want you to see how she feels. Hugs

I agree with Mirandac that DivorceCare is very helpful.

thanks for the replies some very good advice and it has given me some hope that yes I can get through this difficult time .
It may have only took a minute out your day to reply but it has helped thanks

Michael, I can only speak for myself but suspect other feel the same as I. If you are inclined, I am interested in the progress of your journey. Please share so I can pat you on the shoulder and cheer you on or provide support when needed.

I am that woman I am on that side and from my perspective not what happened in your life because I have no idea. I spent many years feeling alone misunderstood unappreciated like a single parent I witnessed harmeful things and was told hurtful things and so have my children over the years I became numb and just thought this is what I signed up for but I broke beyond repair this summer he knOw realizes all the wrong ( I am at fault too) and has begged me to work it out but I cant go backwards I can only look forward and do what is best for my children and myself I am no longer his "parent" I can't be my love grew weary as did my attraction and all other feelings and no not leaving for someone else other than myself but I'm stuck here in this house due to kids and finances it's hard on me too my family is over it's so sad and breaks my heart I have found new happiness in myself and I hate to see him sad but I was there for years and I was never enough for him to change

Hello! I guess you and I have written on the site only a date apart. Thank you for commenting on my situation. Yes, it all hurts so much and everything is raw. I wake up every day not believing this is happening. I think mornings are the hardest. I try to stay strong for my kids but i look at them and I just feel so sad for them. For us. For all the things we've lost. My ex is on a business trip to ID and then after that India so he's getting time away to get over this and it is so unfair. It happened Sunday. it is not Friday. This happened so fast. My head is spinning. But I know I will be okay and I will be strong and I will get over this.
I'm sorry for the pain you are going through as well. It'll be hard for the both of this but there is a light at the end of this dark tunnel and we will slowly find it and heal. Just be strong and know there's life after this. We just gotta get through it. Be strong.

Yes your right morning is difficult when I wake up I remember my situation and all the pain comes back all over again I've cried most mornings .
Me other half is away also for a few days to London I don't know what's better having her near to me or not it feels like an emptiness inside .
Your right thinking of your kids they will be confused and upset but you sound like a mum who will get them through it.
Yes that light at the end of the tunnel I've heard about it seems so far away i still don't want to give up on her I think I'm still in denial
Hope your not to bad