Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
My boyfriend of 3.5 years broke up with me a week after Valentine's Day and I have been heartbroken ever since. At first I was relieved to be apart from him. He was emotionally abusive and always made it known that I gained weight. A few days would pass when I began to feel devastated and destroyed by this break up. We started talking as friends 2 weeks after the break up. We have a dog together and he told me I could take her with me. At one point he wanted to see her and I took her overn where I found myself begging for him to consider giving me another chance. He told me he needed time to think about it. I agreed and we went on texting here and there. I was hopeful and just about 2 months after we broke up his Dad was in the hospital dying. He asked me to go with him and of course I can't say no. I love him and didn't want him to do that alone. It was nice to be around him and then 2 weeks later I asked him where we stood, of he considered giving our relationship another chance. He told me no and that he thought that was made clear. I'm devastated all over again and to top that off he uses the dog against me, saying if I don't bring her to visit he will "make a call" and basically take her from me. So I am stuck with him in my life. Stuck feeling heartbroken. I don't deal with my emotions well and end up texting him too much and causing trouble for myself. I know I need to learn to not need or want to talk to him. I know I am better off without him, but my heart has a mind of it's own.
He probably does miss you. I expect he turned to you when his Dad was in hospital because you were comfortable and convenient and ... because you were THERE. I would suggest no contact with him. NOTHING. And certainly don't be available to go to him with the dog. Don't let him hold this over you. It sounds like he's messing with you, even if he isn't aware ( although he probably is aware as he sounds controlling). Get angry if that helps and protect yourself. Take back control.
I hope very soon you'll see how much better you are without him. Make the break up stick. No contact can be extremely hard to do but it does help you recover. I wish you well.