Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
divorced just over a year now with two young children. My wife wanted the divorce. I begged her for 4 years to work on our marriage and she refused. Married 11 years total. The marriage was not perfect by any means however I miss being in the marriage. I feel so alone and so empty. I see two psychologist, my pastor and take anxiety and depression meds. I meditate and practice mindfulness. However, nothing seems to relieve any pain. My work has suffered and I almost lost my job. I started drinking everyday as a means of silencing the pain. I have traded that bad habit for going to the gym for hours a day. Nothing seems to be helping me. I have never been so lost and after seeking all this help I'm still a wreck. Now, my children are really starting to feel the affects of the separation and I've had to get them into therapy. I can barely get out of bed. I pray God will send me a miracle that will help uplift my spirits. Will this pain ever end? In would give anything to be back in the marriage. Missing the safety and comfort of a family home.
I was utterly devastated. I tried so hard to get her back but it wasnt what she wanted. At least you are getting help. I was off work for 9 months and fir 6 of it I hardly ever got out of bed. It was hell but I finally got help. I was experiencing what they call major depression and it's horrible.
But the reason I'm sharing this is because when I was in the thick of it I really believed the pain and suffering would never end. But it does. It's hard in the beginning because it's very traumatic to everyone involved.
It's good you stopped drinking. Also dont isolate. Try as hard as it may seem to be around people. I joined a support group where we met every monday evening and it helped. Talk it out. Read about what your going through. Keep the gym up because it helps with your mood even if you dont notice.
It will take time because theres a lot you have to adjust to and the healing is an process as well.
I can relate to wanting the security of home and family but in time everything will be different. My ex and I are very civil. We get along. I've had 2 relationships since she left. We are now divorced and she is with someone who seems to make her happy.
I dont have any I'll feelings towards her but I'm grateful we are not together. I dont miss her at all and you will find yourself where I am someday.
You will meet someone better suited and someone who would never leave. Be strong for you and your kids because it's not easy for them either. I promise you that you will get through this!