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So she had been deceiving me for a while. And she left to be with a man she has seen only once to be with him for a week at his home. Can someone tell me how can someone is capable of deceiving like this. As I said, she seemed so loving and caring until she left me. She told me out of the blue that she loved me so much the night before she left me. We were really close friends for years. She helped me through difficult times. She has kept every email I have sent her for the last 8 years. She always said I was the love of her life. She moved to NY to be close to me. And when she finally has the love of her life she deceives me. How can someone do this? While she was deceiving me she was extremely jealous of any female friend who wrote on my facebook wall. Is she mentally ok?
It doesn't work that way. You can't seem to focus on yourself and that's what you need to be doing. She did what she wanted to do for herself. That's what you need to be doing now. Doesn't matter why she did it, its her life and her choice. You're codependent. There's a group here for that you may want to look in to.
She's thinking of herself right now.
Like I said, I think she's going to do an about face over the next few months if you don't talk to her.
Silence is deafening.
But I'm not a psychologist and Lord knows I am dealing with my own demons from being with someone who said "i love you" numerous times a day on the phone, brought me flowers, etc, then over a few days just hated me and left.
The original question, is she okay? No, she's not. And neither is my x. But they have to work it out for themselves.
They are concentrating on themselves now. And we need (HAVE!) to do the same, even if we still love them because we can't change how they feel, what they want, or what they are going through.
In time, it all comes out in the wash. It's the waiting that kills you. So you have to put yourself first at this time.
As for her jealousy over females and FB. those that accuse, and act as they do towards you, are because of what they do. So that gives adage to an old say, :those that accuse are the ones that do."