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My ex husband is a real piece of work........
He hasnt seen his child in 1 1/2 yrs and has spoken with him maybe 5 times in that time frame. Im ok with all of that, but I really am disgusted with his selfishness.
We live 800miles away from one another. Our visitation schedule per court order states that he has 3 weeks of visitation...2 weeks for the summer, 1 week at Christmas with a 30 day notice. If he should choose to travel here, he is to give me a 48 hour notice. (by the way, that will never happen)
Last summer he was deployed but came home for 2 weeks of vacation in July. Was supposed to take son, never did. Never even CALLED him to say he was back on US soil, to say hello, how are you? Nothing.
Christmas rolls around. He had been home for good for weeks prior. Didnt want to take him then either. Fine. He even went as far as to say that he didnt feel the need to see him and all of the grief his mother was giving me about seeing her grandson for the holidays, was about her, not his need to see his own child.
Whatever.
Then says he wants him for his winter break, which begins this weekend. He will have the whole week off next week. Ex had to have his leave adjusted to fit this time frame....but hasnt bothered to tell me if he is taking him or not....and its now oh... Thursday...and vacation begins at school dismissal tomorrow.
ARRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGGG
If he thinks Im getting my happy ass in my Jeep to drive to Ohio the DAY BEFORE he wants him..he has another thing coming to him. Because of his lack of communication, I have a class I am teaching scheduled on Saturday, and Im not making my students reschedule.
Also, although i have back up plans already...does he even think? I have to work next week while son is on break...and need to arrange childcare.
I guess when you decide to play dad whenever you feel like it....you dont think about things such as planning ahead, childcare, etc.
UGHHHHHHHHH.............. So frustrating.
He hasnt seen his child in 1 1/2 yrs and has spoken with him maybe 5 times in that time frame. Im ok with all of that, but I really am disgusted with his selfishness.
We live 800miles away from one another. Our visitation schedule per court order states that he has 3 weeks of visitation...2 weeks for the summer, 1 week at Christmas with a 30 day notice. If he should choose to travel here, he is to give me a 48 hour notice. (by the way, that will never happen)
Last summer he was deployed but came home for 2 weeks of vacation in July. Was supposed to take son, never did. Never even CALLED him to say he was back on US soil, to say hello, how are you? Nothing.
Christmas rolls around. He had been home for good for weeks prior. Didnt want to take him then either. Fine. He even went as far as to say that he didnt feel the need to see him and all of the grief his mother was giving me about seeing her grandson for the holidays, was about her, not his need to see his own child.
Whatever.
Then says he wants him for his winter break, which begins this weekend. He will have the whole week off next week. Ex had to have his leave adjusted to fit this time frame....but hasnt bothered to tell me if he is taking him or not....and its now oh... Thursday...and vacation begins at school dismissal tomorrow.
ARRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGGG
If he thinks Im getting my happy ass in my Jeep to drive to Ohio the DAY BEFORE he wants him..he has another thing coming to him. Because of his lack of communication, I have a class I am teaching scheduled on Saturday, and Im not making my students reschedule.
Also, although i have back up plans already...does he even think? I have to work next week while son is on break...and need to arrange childcare.
I guess when you decide to play dad whenever you feel like it....you dont think about things such as planning ahead, childcare, etc.
UGHHHHHHHHH.............. So frustrating.
i have a step daughter (i dont call her my ex step daughter) that i miss like crazy. she is about 9 hours away. if i even had one set weekend with her a year i would plan, replan, have a back up for my back up plan just to ensure i got to see her. because thats how important it is. i wish i would have thought to put that in the divorce decree. it disgusts me how selfish my exhusband is. he has the opportunity to be with this beautiful angel child - to be a full time dad. and instead, he chooses to be out driving truck all the time - not choosing a trucking company that he could do day shifts with - his sister raises his child. i dont get it. they have the luxury of disregarding their children - because they think their children are always going to be there. its going to be a rude awakening for them (these fathers and mothers) when they are snubbed by their children.
i am sorry that this happens to your son. i know it must be hard for you to see. i am thankful that he has such a stable parent like you that he knows he can count on. xoxo
My EX does everything she can to push me out of their lives, while I have fought so hard for what I do have... I just can't imagine.
He's even cheating himself. At some point in his life, he's going to realize just much he's missed.
and that just sucks.
I have sole custody, he has supervised visits.
Its horrible for him to pay child support and he chooses not to have a relationship with his son..which is fine...
But
When we split..I offered him the choice of just walking away. He never wanted anything to do with the child....I knew this, he knew it but he refused.
I hate that my son has to go through this and feel his rejection. Thats what bothers me about it.....
Reminds me of my father - was a verbally abusive alcoholic when I was growing up. Moved out when I was 17, and I didn't hear from him for 3 years after that. No idea where he was or what he was up to. Came back into my life right before I got married and was a completely different person. Now pleasant to be around and no longer drinking, smoking or gambling. Now I enjoy his company, but if he was the same person he was before, I would have nothing to do with him now.