Thanks for the positive post.

I took a look at The Four Agreements. While I am not generally into new-agey type stuff, I think there is a lot of wisdom in what he says. Just reading the description of the four agreements and some other quotes from the book was interesting and made me think. Here they are:

- "Be Impeccable With Your Word. Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love..."

- "Don't Make Assumptions. Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life..."

- "Don't Take Anything Personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering..."

- "Always Do Your Best. Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret..."

I think most of us could use improvement in the "Don' Take Anything Personally" category! I know I could. Thanks for the interesting thought material.

Thanks for both of you for sharing that information. Thanks heartspain for sharing your story. Often people come to this site looking for support. As they recover from their divorce, they move on from the site. It's good to hear people's stories and hear that they are moving forward.

I liked the quotes. I, like you heartspain, know I've done all I can do too. I had hoped for reconciliation, presented options, let him know I still loved him, that I would wait for him but was rejected again and again and then one day I had an ah ha moment and I KNEW I would be ok w/out him, that he wasn't coming back, EVER and I realized I was going to be ok. After almost 2 years of false hope and denial on my part I was able to really feel the heavy burden lift from my shoulders. It was freeing for me and while it took me a long time to come to "accept" this and let him go I'm happy to say I am finally able to move forward. Again, it was a freeing and healing moment for me.

I remember how I felt when I first stumbled upon this group, what a life saver it has been for me. I never thought I would ever get to this point but I did. It's nice to hear positives once in awhile! Hugs.