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mysteryman73
mysteryman73
After my divorce I am to guarded I don't want to get to close to anybody, anybody had this problem and if they did how did they get past the fear of getting close to somebody.
Dave17
Dave17
How long has it been?
deleted_user
deleted_user
working on it.
As long as the other person seems excited and interested, I am fine.

The minute I sense that interest waning, I get all "here we go again..."

Trying to get past it....
mysteryman73
mysteryman73
its been a couple years I have dated but when it comes to anything long term I seem to pull back.
mysteryman73
mysteryman73
That is me Eastcoastaj I rather leave them than to be hurt again.
deleted_user
deleted_user
It took me 5 years to completely trust again.....
Dave17
Dave17
Maybe you still have things to work out.
I would consider counseling to get a feel for what is going on.
Maybe your meeting the wrong sorts, and this is you protecting yourself?
IDK... give us more info
deleted_user
deleted_user
I dated and it was difficult. Only recently have I started to let someone in my life, but, well, anyway *glossing over that* I think it takes time. It did for me anyway. I'm of the same mind as AJ with the "here we go again." What the fuck do I know I should just stop writing.
LAC2cali
LAC2cali
I've been in therapy since I left my ex-H and the therapist agrees I am ready to date.

Relationships? Letting down my "guard?" that is another story entirely different. There was a thread a few weeks back that addressed trust - I believe this is an issue of trusting another person to let them in. My divorce is too fresh (Nov 2009) to start trying to trust again - besides, no one has given me a reason to want to.