Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I finally went to see a counsellor for my issues following my break up. For the last eight months it has been a struggle, especially when he has been emailing and looking at my stuff online etc.
I was over analysing everything, couldn't go a day without thinking about it.
One of the main things, I felt like I didn't know who I was anymore. I had been an us for so long. I had lived my life but he was a huge part of it. From having that other half I had trusted, loved and couldn't wait to spend time with, sharing things with and yes, even made sandwiches and ironed for (I know. I heard the gasp of women everywhere!!!) to then having to block this person entirely for my own sanity.
I have just started taking back the things I enjoyed. I am trying to focus on work and studies.
The counsellor was great and understanding and with her questions and advice, I came to realise more. That I give so much. I will once again have to learn to trust. That I should do more to visit home for support and do ore to make myself happy, even little things like getting a new comfy hoodie.
That he had issues that I still know nothing of. That there was no way I could help someone that doesn't ask for it.
I got a lot from the counselling session and it was a great release. I am still trudging forward but I definitely recommend it to anyone that feels like they need help.
I was over analysing everything, couldn't go a day without thinking about it.
One of the main things, I felt like I didn't know who I was anymore. I had been an us for so long. I had lived my life but he was a huge part of it. From having that other half I had trusted, loved and couldn't wait to spend time with, sharing things with and yes, even made sandwiches and ironed for (I know. I heard the gasp of women everywhere!!!) to then having to block this person entirely for my own sanity.
I have just started taking back the things I enjoyed. I am trying to focus on work and studies.
The counsellor was great and understanding and with her questions and advice, I came to realise more. That I give so much. I will once again have to learn to trust. That I should do more to visit home for support and do ore to make myself happy, even little things like getting a new comfy hoodie.
That he had issues that I still know nothing of. That there was no way I could help someone that doesn't ask for it.
I got a lot from the counselling session and it was a great release. I am still trudging forward but I definitely recommend it to anyone that feels like they need help.
As bad as I feel and the shoulda woulda couldas running through my mind, I have absolutely no control over anything to do with our relationship. He made sure of that.
I just need to do more for me and hope that I can stop him being in my mind so much.
And she was so good at bringing up questions to make me think and realise issues.
I'm glad you are finding it beneficial.
Debmul, absolutely,
No one can make you feel weak or judged by seeking help. I have been told by a few people to in essence "man up" "get over it" "It's been 8 months and you're still upset?"
Yes. Because there is no time limit for this. I loved so deeply and trusted so fully. More than I ever thought myself capable of. That trust was torn apart by a scared little man. What scared him? Commitment? Being an us for the rest of his life? Not getting to be the free spirit regardless of the fact I never chained him down or demanded anything of him?
So no one can tell me that I should be over my relationship of so long. No one can tell you that you are weak for trying to help yourself. I would go for it. It s indeed a great way to organise those thoughts and feelings and have a specialists views and advice on them. Especially great if they know what they are talking about and are understanding of the pain you have been through.
Be strong miss. Let us hope we get better, that we can be happy again and that perhaps our ex's are happy slapped by a whale.
I just know if I hadn't gone for a talk I would have collapsed or something from all the pressure. Not being able to sleep, that twat actually being in my dreams, not knowing quite who I am and what I want etc. It was all getting jumbled and a bit too much. I hope you get a good counsellor!