I really wish you the best. I felt the same in my past relationship... that I should've left. But we hang on to hope that things will work out. Do you have friends or family to go to if/when you need to move out? You're a strong person, you will get through this.

Harely

I'm sorry you are going through this right now. I pray you will find the strength you need to be okay while this mess is happening to you.
I can't offer many words of advice about what to do to get the ball rolling other than keep in mind that you are doing it for yourself and your daughter and don't be afraid of any financial help you can receive to get you started. also I can tell you what I have done so far to make it a little easier on myself and my child.
I too have a very similar situation to you and am now in a co parenting situation until our home is sold . it's not easy, but you can get through this. It has made me believe in myself more.
I am here for you anytime you need to talk, really.
HUGS

Not only am I am emotional mess but I think about things like our house. We had a pipe to bust last year and it flooded our house. The house is still not completely repaired (husband wanted to do it himself....insert exasperated gasp). So now I have a house that is under construction, so how will it ever be sold :-(

I had it all. But as of last night it all changed. I should have left when the drinking started. Don't worry about the house, it's the least of you problems. Maybe if I had let go of the house and walked out when it started getting bad, I would have had a better chance of starting over. Now I'm 50, my sons are gone and I'm siting here crying, scared and looking at a house full of bad memories.

That's me, I'm sitting here looking at a house full of memories, both good and bad. I wish I could just snap my fingers and my daughter and I be in a new place. My husband left back in 2013 and I begged for him to come back. I wish I didn't....now I'm dealing with cheating and on and off usage of drugs. I've been with him for 13 years. I just don't even know where to start.

I am.sorry you are going through this....I can just say that I felt the way you did many years back, contemplating divorce, now it's 10 years later and it's actually happening. Yes it's better timing because kids aren't little anymore and I'm better financially, but I'm sad too that we stayed together that much longer. I think the longer you are with someone, it's harder to leave whatever the circumstances may be.

So sorry you are going through this but you will be okay. It will be tough but keep on posting and seek therapy

If you do not have enough money to survive on your own, you should not divorce.
I am in the same situation. And, I've done a lot through 14 years of very unhappy and emotionally unbearable marriage. I am an immigrant..so I learnt English, got some job experience, went to school and got good education, I have friends, and my mother is with me in USA. I was not working for many ears because of children. My 5-y.o. is Autistic. And I live in a hell...literally. I did not give up my hope for divorce and freedom. I recently found a job again. But, honestly when I practically picture my life alone, it seems like even worse than with my husband. If we combine our income and divide it by 2, after divorce we both will join the low income community.
Let's be practical and realistic. Will you have money to rent an apartment and pay your basic expenses after divorce? If not, forget about it and work on making yourself financially independent.