I did! And it was a horrible nightmare and the biggest regret of my life! She made things much worse.......i guess it all depends on who the person is, if they are a total drama junkie, then don't do it. Plus you run the risk of your significant other taking his/her side and making you feel like a fool..

In your case seashell... did they end up together? Or did you patch your relationship up after the affair?

They did end up together, but then he left her, came back to me, stupid me took him back, and then 6 months later he went back to her and he's been with her since.

Ugh... sorry about that.

You've been on the board for awhile and I notice you seem to always want to know about others situations, but never talk about yourself.

You've had enough time to relax and unwind. So how about discussing your own situation.

I confronted her.
Found our truck parked in her driveway at 11PM on a Wednesday night.
Banged on her door and demanded he hand over his wedding band.
When she came to the door (afraid me yelling at him was going to wake up her three children), I asked her if she truly felt what she was doing was ethical - if she was setting the best possible example for her children. And she simply said yes. Because she claimed they werent doing "anything".
She saw absolutely nothing wrong with a married man being in her home late at night - regardless of what they were doing. They acted as though I was the irrational one (deflection).
I left with his wedding band. It was tough. Given the person I was then, I'm surprised I didnt wind up in jail for assault. Seriously.

Even though I couldve done MUCH worse (and wanted to), it was not my proudest moment. But it was something I needed to do at the time. I needed that moment in my life in order to make a complete recovery. I needed to hate them both in order to see who he really was and be able to (happily) let him go.

They are still together. They can have eachother.

Membertoday, how does this relate to your situation and what is your situation? You've been here awhile and people have shared with you. It's time for you to tell us about you.

To me, the moment he said he was done with me, I have been going through the motions of reminding myself that in the end, he left me. It is no longer my concern whether or not he is with someone else. Every time he comes over to visit his kids and he is actively on his phone texting people, I repeat my mantra in my head, it doesn't matter, it doesn't matter, it doesn't matter. In the end, it doesn't. My ex has moved on and now I must. it is harsh, but for me it is reality.

#6- that was wild - I can only imagine. I confronted someone years ago, I was perhaps 20 - wasn't that dramatic - I basically told her I would dump my then husband when I got tired of him and she could have him then (I was a kid)

I once sent a message to a woman who was sending my mate explicit pix on his phone while she was engaged to another man and was all religious on her FB page - the pix she sent him was so explicit I can't even describe in on this site - but anyways, I reached out and said, aren't you getting married? - should I sent this pix to your man or should I put it up on FB? - she didn't reply - that was that - he wasn't worth me confronting her - he was the problem not her - after that experience never again will I confront another woman - they aren't the problems - the ppl we choose as mates are the issues - our poor choices are the issue. Outsiders don't care and never will.

AsTime... sorry you are mistaken. I really have not asked anything of anyone thus far. This situation is my own. If find it embarrassing, actually. However, if you feel uncomfortable with me, please ignore me!

I think it is probably a bad idea. Sometimes the urge is strong but I can't imagine it would change anything, even for myself.

You do ask questions and then like here ask "and did you" which is personal. You've been a member since 2010 and posting on this board since August of last year.

You're not shy because you're actually posting and nothing is too embarrassing for us and we've heard just about everything and this is an anonymous board. You didn't post a city, a state, whether you are male or female or an age. So you are hyper-anonymous.

When posters do nothing but ask questions and people are telling their personal stories, you begin to wonder if they are a student doing a project, someone writing a book, or researching, etc.

People here have faced embarrassment, humiliation, broken hearts--come on, talk to us.

And by the way; in this thread you also asking the personal question:

"In your case seashell... did they end up together? Or did you patch your relationship up after the affair? "

ATGB has a good point. We all open up and share. No one sits silent in a support group and learns anything unless you are doing research...

Member, I have had to block two people on this site because they seemed to always be unsupportive and mean when they respond to posts, and i was really hurt by it and felt i couldn't vent on here for a long time.......It looks like you have been affected by one of the same people, bcuz i can't see the persons post, but in reference to your saying "Astime ..." i remember they are one of the the ppl i had to block!