Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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MIS 03/06/2018

how do u know if ur making the right decision? I feel I can’t live with or without him. He has been my love for 10 yrs but his depression is too overwhelming and I no longer feel loved

run2bfree 03/18/2018

I have left 3 marriages, I did marriage counselling in all but the first we did counselling with a catholic priest. My ex at that time was catholic, the priest told me to get out of the marriage. We ended doing "retrouvaille marriage counselling" which was an amazing experience but we were the 1 % that failed, the priest was right
My advice, try everything and if it doesn't work, you will have no regrets. Use your gut of course too, you will know

jojored 03/18/2018

I agree with Airanwin, "1. Your husband alone is responsible for his own mental health welfare. It is not your responsibility, just as you are not responsible for his happiness. "

To that, I'll add that:

You alone are responsible for your own mental health, just as he is not responsible for your happiness.

You're steering this ship, you're the captain. It sure looks like guilt is keeping you with him, and if that's the case, that's a crumbled foundation. You need to watch out for your own wellness, and at this point, it is shaky.

jojored 03/18/2018

My personal story, I stayed with an emotional user and manipulator for years. The last 8 were so draining that I found myself in the bottom of a dark dank pit, my soul was crushed. I was losing myself, and I wasn't even fully aware it was happening. I think you kinda are at the point where you see the pit walls and just want to get the hell out of there. There is absolutely no shame in ending things and resurrecting your soul.

MIS 03/19/2018

Thank you all for your words and experiences

Arianwen 03/19/2018

Hi MIS. Just referring back to an earlier post of yours about your SO just expressing anger... This is very typical in depression, because it's impossible to turn down the volume on a single emotion - all emotions get turned down, which is why people talk about feeling numb. Unfortunately, anger just then becomes the default emotion and response. Is he getting help with cognitive coping skills and emotional regulation? You need your own support network also!! Message me if I can help. Take care.

MIS 03/20/2018

Yes he is getting help with that which is good. Yes i need my own support network. Part of the reason why I am on this site ;) I appreciate everyone;s thoughts and experiences

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