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My husband wanted to have lunch today to "tell me something important" and to "get it off his chest". So, we meet and sit down and talk face to face for the first time in months. Of course he tells me everything that he's told me before, "You guys (kids and I) or my REAL family. I am sorry,please give me another chance, I know i fucked up big time, huge time" and on and on. Get to the fucking point, is what I was thinking. Tell me what I already fuckin know already. What a warned your stupid ass about months and months ago.
He tells me, "Uh, I know I've hurt you and the kids so much already and I just want to come clean, and uh tell you the truth. Um, we have another baby." And, I just look at him and say, "You mean the baby ya'll just had or ANOTHER fuckin baby?! He says, "Well...uh..um..We had another one." and I say, "You mean to tell me that you did it AGAIN EXACTLY AND PRECISELY what i told you NO Fore WARNED you about? That this bitch would make sure she got pregnant AGAIN because she was gonna try to have girl next to replace OUR boy and girl?"
AND THIS STUPID selfish son of a bitch says, "Uh, yeah,....i guess..uh i did. And I say, "Please don"t tell me it's a girl now" and he says "Yes its a girl, she is five months old and was born one year on the same day as the boy." So, this is how my husband is trying to, "work things out" and "prove to me to take him back" Well, he has his boy to replace our boy and now a girl to replace our little girl. I have to watch my kid suffer ALL fucking over again feeling like their Dad had "replaced them"
Congradufuckinlations on your new replacement baby girl hubby!
He tells me, "Uh, I know I've hurt you and the kids so much already and I just want to come clean, and uh tell you the truth. Um, we have another baby." And, I just look at him and say, "You mean the baby ya'll just had or ANOTHER fuckin baby?! He says, "Well...uh..um..We had another one." and I say, "You mean to tell me that you did it AGAIN EXACTLY AND PRECISELY what i told you NO Fore WARNED you about? That this bitch would make sure she got pregnant AGAIN because she was gonna try to have girl next to replace OUR boy and girl?"
AND THIS STUPID selfish son of a bitch says, "Uh, yeah,....i guess..uh i did. And I say, "Please don"t tell me it's a girl now" and he says "Yes its a girl, she is five months old and was born one year on the same day as the boy." So, this is how my husband is trying to, "work things out" and "prove to me to take him back" Well, he has his boy to replace our boy and now a girl to replace our little girl. I have to watch my kid suffer ALL fucking over again feeling like their Dad had "replaced them"
Congradufuckinlations on your new replacement baby girl hubby!
"You must not know about me
You must not know about me
I will have another you by tomorrow
So don't you ever for a second get to thinking you're irreplaceable"
The rest of the lyrics:
http://www.completealbumlyrics.com/lyric/130892/Beyonce+-+Irreplaceable.html
What an ahole.
Please never allow your children to think or to hear you refer to them as secondary...and that their Dad has replacement children to take their place. There has been enough hurt and damage done.
Kick him to the curb, he is unworthy of you and your children.
Reply #7 really tugged at my heartstrings and I am very sympathethic to your situation. Your husband thought his life would be twice as good with two families but he never realized that an honest life devoted to a single family is infinitely better. Your daughter sounds like an angel - please hug her for me.
I'm so sorry for you and your children. You are so much better off without him. Don't meet with him again. It is just going to be a painful experience.
Prayers to you!
I would try and wait a bit to tell your kids, until you can tell them in a way that is as objective as possible (as difficult as that may be, given the situation) - to try and protect their feelings, as much as you can.
That's the thing some people just don't think about in their selfish actions - is just how much they are impacting others (like the impact of your ex's actions on you and your kids). Best regards.
I was thinking about letting their child therapist help us in this matter. I just can't bare to tell them. My husband has'nt told them.