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Bongo
Bongo

So today I cant swallow anything. Everytime I do want to throw up. I saw on FB that he had taken his ex which is now I guess there back together and ita killing me out to his Christmas party that we went to for yrs. So hurt i can barly post this. I juat want to go home but I know it was horrible being with him. He really was mentally mean to me and broke me so far down I cant see up. I am trying to stay strong for my son cause he needs me more then ever. Just cant cope. Dont want to go through another day feeling like this. I dont want to be put on any meds I am stronger in that area as I have been sober for almost 4yrs. Trying everything to not feel this way anymore and it just wont go away.  I am so scared I cant make it on my own and I will let my son down. I spent ten yrs and everything was his. In his name. I was so stupid and now i am terrified and I dobt want to be. 

thiscantbeit
thiscantbeit
Im so sorry that youre dealing with this. I wish that there was a pill we could take that would make this go away instantly. This is a difficult place to be in. Heartbreak is a monster. You have to allow yourself to go through it and process it. Its ugly, it hurts, it makes us angry and fills us with anxiety. All normal feelings. Our brains process heartache like a physical pain thats why we physically feel the effects of it. As we go through it our bodies are being depleted and creates an imbalance which is why our appetites change and we go through these motions. You may want to try to take a B12 complex vitamin which can help. I lost 12 pounds in less than 3 months. I did a lot of reading and research trying to find answers as to why this feels the way it does. So I tried the B12's and little by little my appetite came back some. Most important, you have to figure out what you want your tomorrow's to look like. It may seem like an ugly reality that we dont want to accept, but the truth is, it is what it is. We have to move forward in what has been given to us. So now how do you work through it? Map out small goals you may have for yourself. Think about you right now. And let me just say that, as a mother, putting your children first is natural. He probably should have been in the same mindset. Being that he wasnt it may be exposing his selfishness. In a relationship we have to be attentive to our partners but children always demand more of our attention and will be the priority. As hard as it may be, we have to believe that this will get better. I know that for me, all I can do is bring my hurt, anger, disappointed, and all the other stuff to God daily. I will be praying for you. - Hugs
CrushedDad
CrushedDad
You can get thru this! Everyone of us shares your pain and fears and we have to fight thru a minute at a time. I am on 3 different meds and they help take the edge off. Please stay strong!
Czar2476
Czar2476
just hang in there and another couple days it will turn into anger. My husband left after 20 years telling me that he loves me but is not in love with me and hasn't been for years. I would have rather that he left me for another woman instead of living a lie with me. I think it hurts me more that he would rather have Nothing instead of being with me. I am almost a week into this and I still have to see him because of the kids but I am just taking it one day at a time and you have to realize that there is someone out there better for you. Talk to as many people as you can and cry as much as you need to