i totally can relate to this, there is days where i feel hopeful about the future and my life, but then a wave of either flashbacks or thoughts hits me. like you mentioned. work is the time where i find it very hard to concentrate. it feels like im barely making it day by day. at the end of the day i sometimes tell myself, let me get through another day. so i definitely understand what your experiencing

I experience this every day. I could be feeling good for once, but then randomly I am hit with flashbacks of what happened and our past. I also get hit with the fact hes with someone else now and I literally just feel sick. Work sucks. I never want to be here. I like most of the people I work with, though, so they can distract me at times. For me, before bed and when I wake up seem the worst.

I can't tell you when it will get better, because this is new to me also, but I know it eventually will have to get better. At some point, we have to stop thinking about them all the time. I know it's not him that I miss. I miss the relationship and the constant companionship. I miss the memories and the good times. I need to remind myself that there was a lot of bad times, though. It wasn't meant to be.

Feel free to message me if you like. I will always listen and it sounds like we are both going through a similar situation emotion wise.

This is the point when you really need to try to detach
from them. Thats why the no contact works otherwise it
just keeps things alive With the more contact. I had to
totally numb out during my separation it was the only
way i could get thru it and also seeing and dealing with
him. I just shut down inside when he was near.

This now part is about you and your recovery. Much is
The grieving And detaching from them. Its not easy and
all the deep F&E will keep resurfacing plus the triggers
Until you can detach.

I tossed and turned for the first four Months i was then at
my new apartment after the divorce and NC. I mean all night
long and he was the central figure in my head. The body was
at rest my mind wasn't. I went thru all the bad Things he had
said to me and did at night time when i was resting. Many things
Were too Bad to face in the light of day.

I still went to work and did my thing the best i could, both of
My bosses knew what was going on. Other people have stuff
Too like death and illness so you are not alone with a breakup
Or divorce and grieving. HUGS

I feel the same, my mind won't stay working. Feel like everything is wrong. I cant get my brain and my heart to come to terms that he is done. Cant sleep, don't feel like doing anything. Oh well I hear it will pass but I have to many regrets. Hugs to everyone going through this.

Chelsealeigh, I almost wish he would reach out to me just so I know he actually is thinking of me. I've texted him a few times even though its only been 2 weeks. He responds but does not want to talk on the phone or see me. Is he hurting to? Does he even miss me? It feels like he died and I can't just imagine life going on as if he doesn't exist even though we live a mile apart. It makes me sick

Yes. It is part of the process. I can not tell you how many times I'd be at work or store and hear or see something that would remind me and then the flashbacks and a flood of emotions would pour in. So many times I had to leave or go to my car and break down.

I had so many questions, mainly all whys? But it was my therapist who helped me through these questions and helped me not to dwell on the past. She was not thinking of me so I needed to focus on myself and heal me. Do not get hung up thinking about wether he is thinking of you or not. It will eat at you forever and it doesn't help you at all to move on.

Chances are that you and you only are thinking about your relationship. If your relationship was toxic like mine was, be glad you are out now. My relationship lasted 22 years. All lies, cheating and stealing on her part. Today...I am glad it is done. No going back.
Join a divorce support group, you'll be glad you did.
-HUGS-

I'm so lost I cry everyday

I have the same thing here. The emotions keep coming back and it makes it hard at times. I force myself to push through the emotions to move on. I actually enjoy going to work. With how busy I am and the great interaction the customers and I have, it totally takes my mind off my problems. Just do your best to concentrate on you and what you want for your future. The emotions and flashbacks are hard to get through, but with enough determination to make things better for yourself you can push past this and find what you want. I myself am still here in her converted garage till I can move out and yes it makes it hard being close to her and seeing her, but I have resolved myself to only talking to her when needed till I move out and no answering questions about what I have going on or asking her questions about what she has going on. Yes I always wonder what she is doing or where she is until I remind myself that she wants nothing to do with me and to just concentrate on what I want and need. I just can't wait till next Wednesday when I can move on and not be reminded daily of the past. It is hard but with enough determination to move on we all can start to feel better.

I believe that it is a step in the process. Getting over someone that you loved, that you saw a future with, takes time, so please don't think that you are wrong for feeling the way that you do. I am so very sorry that you are going through this...I know, it is just about the worst possible feeling in the world. However, with time, you will heal. I am praying for your heart to be healed and that you would find your true love.