I could have written the exact same thing. So very very sad.

You are not alone my STBX was so in love with me also I never thought we would be in this situation but he also says he no longer is in love with me and left a month ago ... this is not an easy road but I found talking with people on this site really helps. At least you know your not alone and it's evident that things do get better after time ... stay strong take one day at a time stay healthy and have faith... hugs

It's like you are in the twilight zone. It's truly hard trying to figure out what went wrong. It's crazy how you don't get a straight answer. Hang in there and start focusing on yourself.

ChelsealLeigh---I am with you on all that you said. But the flip side is that he now wants all those things, and I am like it's too late. Why not before? Why after you are now sitting alone and you've lost your family. I have a lot of good memories with myself and the kids. It is still hard though, good or not so good memories, leaving someone you've been with for 25 years. It's like losing a limb.

I know how you feel I'm sometimes totured by the happy memories. So I've got rid of everything my wedding album, video, photos, memorabilia it's all gone. The only thing I have left is my wedding dress & that's only because I want to find a charity to donate it too. If you visited my home you'd never think I'd been married. This is how I deal with things. I can't go back so why have things around me to trigger memories? You'll get there, I hope very much I do too. One day I will be happy. Much love xx

My good memories don't really torture me, the
bad memories do and all the negative things he
has said about me and our relationship. How he
Thought and felt about me and what i did to him.

I do question my reality on my good memories After
all the bad ones surfaced. My ex had a Storehouse
full of resentments toward me. It Really amazed me
where had i been.

I Had a hard time coping with that. I had issues With
him too but in my mind i still thought of Him as my big
beautiful husband, in reality he Was not really that way,
its how i felt on the inside. I loved him unconditionally
it was not Returned if it ever really was.

I have saved all my wedding photos and Rings, They
are part of my history. I still look at all my Photos. They
are all mixed up so its fine to Look at them. We looked
so different and young back then And I really have no
negative feelings toward any of the Photos and what
they Represent. HUGS

Memories are definitely though things to deal with especially good ones you had. These days they make me feel sick to my stomach and wonder how something so good has now turned into something so tragic. It looks as if most of us love our ex or STBX unconditionally. I haven't figured out what to do with the love I have because it was intended for the one I lost. I believe what makes it truly difficult is that we feel our good memories are only our memories now. That our once lover no longer cares about those times (especially us being in it). Our minds only draw on the positive when it comes to good memories. We forget the reasons why things didn't work. Its a hard thing to swallow when someone believe that they would be happier without you in it. I struggle with that everyday. We have to realize that it was just one person and they do not control our lives. Sometimes people just fall out of love and it's not a win for anyone. No one wants to start over. They also lose too because they lose us. There is nothing wrong with us and they will no longer be able to kiss us or hug us or feel the warmth of us ever again. We need to put them down from the pedestal we gladly let them on and put our self back there where we belong.

My heart hurts for you and I can imagine how you're feeling, but I would like to share hope with you. I'm not sure where you both stand with God, but I can say that with God I'm able to see things in a different perspective. Through my years of life, I've learned that "LOVE" is not a feeling "LOVE" is a commitment to each other. Love is an action, because feelings are temporarily and a commitment is a life time. Before giving up, try God and allow him to heal and restore your marriage. He is able and regardless of the outcome your rest is in him and you'll find the peace to accept what is to come. Praying for your marriage.

Thank you. I am just reading this now and yes God has been a big help in guiding me and keeping me strong. I keep praying He will restore our marriage and even make it better than it's been in a long time. I hold strong to that faith.