Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Today was especially hard for me for some reason...Well, part of the reason was I found out that my Ex husbands "special friend" is the assistant of one of his contractors...which means the old phone number of a person he was texting last march, April was her...I asked about the phone number back then , I was told it was his plumber. So he had been at least communicating with her for a while.
I got very upset, I know we are divorced, but a rush of feelings overcame me and I was a mess. still am. Ican not get it out of my head and so want to know what he told her about me, us.
How do you meet someone, when your married and talk about private stuff and lead to sleeping with them, both of them knew he was married. ( just weeks into a new separation...he was not even out of our bedroom yet.
How does someone look at another person and lie..and he is very bad at it, it is very easy to tell, because he gets indignant , like how dare you think...
Is my self esteem so low, that I am more worried about how he is portraying me to others? Just when I think Ok, I got this...a landmine... I do know he does get the guilt's every now and then and he says dumb stuff, like going to the cabin, like we used to..as friends...can I be friends with someone that lies to me? But why can't I let him go?
I think I am afraid to forget how he made me feel, he once told someone I was his rock, the part of his life that keep things on track...to be forgotten by him, and his family, his 2 brothers and mothers non have even reached out to me to see how I was doing? I mean we were family for 26 years, Isn't that odd?
when the shit bits the fan only a few friends reamain
You were never really his "rock." Ever. Everything he said was a lie.
You can that you can't handle much more, and the irony here is that you're "handing" things that you shouldn't be worrying yourself with at all. It doesn't matter what he said to others about you. He's a liar. Over time, others will figure that out about him, and he will have made his own bed.
Since you "can't handle much more," it might be a good idea to stop. Build your own life. Go back to school. Volunteer. Move away if you have to, in order to get away from him and the situation.
Put yourself first. It took me most of my life to learn that this was okay to do, so I don't fault anyone for not doing it, especially after something as rough as a divorce.
Put more energy, emotion, and brain-power where it rightfully belongs. That is, on yourself. Best of luck.