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can't do this, going crazy

BrooklynnMB
BrooklynnMB
I don't know what to do with myself. I'm going crazy here. I just want to go to my ex's house and beg for him to take me back. But I know that doing that is only going to push him away. We are spending time together, and he said he can see us long term so there is a chance. But I am having a really hard time being patient. I don't know if I can do this.
deleted_user
deleted_user
If you want this...and he is giving you a chance...but he also needs space, then you NEED to not go to him right now.

Let him come to you in his own time.
deleted_user
deleted_user
At least he is trying...think about that...mine has completely moved on and wont even try to talk about reconciling..so dont give up
ChiTownBear
ChiTownBear
Some of the worse moves are those we rush or when one reacts in haste and wants to hurt another. It only adds to the pile of crap that is there needing to be sorted through. Practice patience and resistance. I would relish in the fact you's are getting along, being civil and discussion of getting back together and long term comments are being throw around. Its better then someone ignoring you, criticizing you, hurting you intentionally and throwing daggers.

So smile and enjoy what is right now and continue to work towards what will be.
deleted_user
deleted_user
How much time does he want? Let him know you love him and want to honor his wishes but, you dont want to be played either. Men love having the upper hand. Take care and keep an open mind. A therapist for you to talk things through may be helpful.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I agree wth number 4...keep an open mind ,but don't do anything that will make it negative.

Staying in communication...at the pace you BOTH feel good about...is positive. It really is when someone turns mean and then plays victim by lashing out with critical comments that can turn something potentially good, into something bad.

Don't. Take care of you, give him his space, and stay positive.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Speaking from my own experience here (and agreeing with you) do not go reaching out.

Maybe you need to spend some cycles working and looking at yourself (and I say this thinking about my own life!). You wouldn't want to "smother" or fall back to old patterns if he takes you back.