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can i do this alone

jdp369118
jdp369118

im find myself wondering who will watch my kids when they are out of school for vacations like thanksgiving and christmas. who will be there to help watch them in the summer so i can continue to provide for them. im not use to not having a plan for the future idk how to plan for a future when im all my kids have. it scares me to wonder if ill have to find another job working nights instead of days so i can have family help. idk what to do or how to plan anymore

lonelywolf79
lonelywolf79
In the face of adversity we either cower or rise to the occasion. When we do rise we find strength where we didn't even know we had. We find courage where there was none. And we become something we never even thought possible, our own superhero.
YES you can do it alone. YES it is in you. YES you will be able to handle it ALL and more. Just believe in yourself and be strong.
Look at my last post on here. When we face these trials ALONE we become strong. You got this. Just go do it.
arfie
arfie
Nope, you can''t do it alone. It takes a village to raise a child. There sure are allot of ways to put together a village, though.

Take it in small steps, JDP. Not every day is good for planning. Some days ya just work with what's available.
jdp369118
jdp369118
thank you im doing my best just scared
jojored
jojored
Will you have full custody, is that why you're thinking you have to do all of the planning? It's a tough road to travel for sure, but you will do what you have to do. It's smart to start planning these things.

Care for them while you're working all depends upon their ages. If they are young, you can investigate drop in day care type places. If school aged, perhaps you can locate college students or responsible high school students who can come to your home. Summer camps are pretty prevalent in most areas. I would imagine that if you call a local high school or college, they may be able to point you in the right direction. Also you can try the local social services agencies to see if they have other ideas for support in your area. Talk to neighbors, too, to see what others are doing.
arfie
arfie
Being scared is a sign of intelligence, JDP. It shows you are paying attention. Parenthood is a BIG responsibility, whatever the circumstances.

Your honest best is all you can do. Don't be afraid to make use of and continue building your village.
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