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Kevin5jm 10/14/2007

OK...I had something happen to day and I really need some help. I went to the store today to replace some of the things the ex took yesterday. So I also do some grocery shopping today also, I'm in line and as I am putting everything on the belt, I look behind me and there is a gorgeous woman, late 30's, early 40's, amazing vibrant blue eyes, a smikin body and great smile. So I look at the finger, no ring, no band, no suntan lines, no skin wear...I think Hmmmmmm.... what do I say? I really really wanted to say something to her. We did exchange smiles and some funny comment, but that was it...I wanted to say something else, but had no idea what to say without sounding like an idiot or like I was TRYING to pick her up. BUT I really wanted to get her number and find out if she wanted to get some coffee or something and just talk or get to know each other. I know I am friendly, outgoing here and on the phone, but my ind was blank. This is what I fear the greatest...I was like this when I last dated (14 years ago!!!!) HELP ME PLEASE!!!! I don't want to sound stupid or dumb or like a pickup artist....I feel completely lost!!!!!! HELP!!!!!

deleted_user 10/14/2007

Could you have helped her to her car with her groceries?

deleted_user 10/14/2007

I would be flattered to have a man strike up a conversation with me. In the grocery line, it seems easy--start talking about the most outrageous story on the cover of whatever magazine is available. As the conversation progresses, introduce yourself.

deleted_user 10/14/2007

just relax and be yourself

deleted_user 10/14/2007

I seem to remember a game of truth or dare weren't you supposed to be doing something?

By the way we're in your room join us.

deleted_user 10/14/2007

You didn't want to sound stupid or dumb. That's why you didn't start a conversation.

You probably will sound stupid or dumb. Or even desperate. So, don't worry and just call it practice. You'll get better as you do it.

She's either going to be attracted or not. She won't be if you don't speak. Women want a man that is confident.

deleted_user 10/14/2007

Were you wearing your ring that would be stupid and dumb if you were...

Kevin5jm 10/14/2007

havent been wearing my ring for months...since May, and you guys are right...just need to do it...keep the answers coming...need some help...damn I feel pathetic asking this question....

MimiL 10/14/2007

I dont know....but you are so alive....its inspiring...a guy asked me for my number the other nite....he texted the next day....Im panicked. But Im sooo happy for you ....across the abyss

deleted_user 10/14/2007

It not easy to start something new after that amount of time. For me it has been 18 years of the same person. There was one relationship that could have become serious however, I know that it wiil be awhile befor I am ready for anything. Be careful, 50% of first marriages fail but, 70% of second marriages fail.

deleted_user 10/14/2007

I always say, nothing ventured, nothing gained.

deleted_user 10/16/2007

You're an amazing man....dont' let the x's opinion of you get you down....you have sooooo much to offer a woman....if she can't see that potential right off the bat she has issues you don't even want to deal with.....there are "chicks" out there that will see that and it won't happen over night but you just gotta hang in there!!!!!

deleted_user 10/16/2007

Maybe it would help if your goal is to find out how dumb &/o stupid you can be, instead of to pick up someone. That way, nothing lost. And, you might just gain a new relationship. The more you practice, the easier it becomes.

deleted_user 10/16/2007

Your asking the wrong person here.
At that point anything that came out of my moputh would have made Forrest Gump seem like Einstein.
I'm not even remotely ready for this.

deleted_user 10/16/2007

maybe your just not lookin in the right place....i still say dont' try and thats when it happens...

deleted_user 10/16/2007

you know that very thing happened to me in Costco. Amazingly beautifully distinguished woman, no ring, tans, etc. I was all blubber then, got the gall to go up to her in the parking lot but she was in the car too fast. Damn slow cashiers at costco!

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