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Strong4me2017 04/12/2017

Two days ago my husband decided to walk away from our 8 year marriage. He broke the news to me while I was out of town with my friends for a girls weekend. Something I had been looking forward to for awhile now to get away from the stress of everyday life. My husband used the typical excuses I need to find myself, you haven't always been there when I need You, I haven't been happy for a long time now. The truth is he left me for another woman. He had been talking to an old friend on the phone for about a week. I told him I didn't know how I felt about that due to her being a part of our shared past and not in a good way. He had left me one before in the beginning of our marriage and lived with her. We reconciled and it took a long time for me to believe in him again. He told me he would never hurt me this away again and our marriage was a bond for life. So here I am 4 hours away from home with my friends and my husband decided to walk away. And my life at home is changing forever. I'm dreading going back to an empty house with shattered memories.

mirandac 04/12/2017

I would get into therapy and attend divorce care
it Helps a lot with the grieving and the divorce
Process.

He sounds like a checked out spouse not Much
you can do but to go forward. See a lawyer and
get your ducks in a row. Its all about the financials
At the end.

I was glad to be at home when i was grieving After
the decree i moved out into an apartment. That would
have been hard. This is going to be Emotionally very
draining. Reach out for loving Caring support, post Often
it helps to vent. The anxiety tends to build with All the
uncomfortable feelings and emotions,

There is a light at the end of the tunnel it just takes time.
There is one way and that is thru grief its is going to keep
Coming. It will feel like an emotional rollercoaster, many
Think i have made it then here we go again. Sorry for all
your hurt and pain, HUGS

Strong4me2017 04/12/2017

Thank you on day three now and feeling pretty numb at the moment. I know it's going to hit hard when I return home. My friends think I should have my mom come over and take all our pictures off the wall before I go home. So I'm not greeted with all our memories. I'm not sure how I feel about that. Any thoughts?

ripped_my_heartout 04/12/2017

Hang in there. 22 years together with my stbx before I was blindsided and stabbed in the back. Through therapy and divorce group, I realize that I should have seen it comming. I was blind to the red flags.

The grief and pain is real. Unfortunately we all go through it and there is no set timeline to feeling better. Take the time to work on yourself. Exercise is a great stress reliever. Try to get the proper sleep. That one is a hard one for myself. Having no contact helped me too. I think staying no contact helped me realize there was no point over agonizing over someone that has checked out and had no feelings for me.

We will all get to the place where we want to be eventually. It's been almost 6 months now for me and I have come a long way. I have to keep working at it. I hope you get the help you need. Be strong. -HUGS-

mirandac 04/12/2017

I did not change anything in the home, I ended
up leaving after the decree he had Moved over
to his mothers then back in After the divorce.

We still co shared the property and house, we
just did not live together He had his business
There too.

I use to count the hours until i would Get home
to my little cocoon and let the tears come, my
Car was also my home away from home, HUGS

Biatta 04/12/2017

I was reading your post and crying. I do feel for you so much. It is going to be so hard for you to start the new chapter in your life.
It is so devastating and painful when your partner just goes away when you less expect it. So sudden, so abrupt.. You even did not have time to prepare yourself. Horrible.
May be we shall start a new topic on this board " My life after he left" and ask people to post successful and happy ending stories of how to overcome break ups and move on.
I read this forum frequently and I am shocked of how many people are going through the hell. Are there any one who build its life, fall in life again, re-married?

SuZQ 04/14/2017

I am so sorry that you are going through this. I hear your anger, hurt, and frustration and understand it! It has only been a few days for you. Have you had any further communication with your husband?

It sounds like you are getting advice from many people? Sometimes too much advice and too much talking about the situation can make it even more confusing. Sometimes it is best to just sit quietly by yourself. I used to do that, pray, and just listen for God's response. Sometimes I got more guidance by doing that than all the other avenues that I was using. You know yourself better than anyone and you know your husband too. What does your heart say you should do?

bridgie101 04/14/2017

I think the rule we all need to learn is that once someone has bonked someone else it's over. Not because of any religious rule, but because bonking someone else nullifies the prior relationship. Makes it a not thing. There is no going back, there is nothing to go back to. They can live in a house together for years but it won't make a bond happen.

Sorry this has happened to you but at least it was only 8 yrs. Small comfort perhaps but it's better than 20 or 30.

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