Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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jokiwhau 08/24/2015

I have been divorced 2 years. I started seeing a guy and recently broke up with him after seeing him for 6 months. All I can say is, I feel like I am going through another divorce again!

UGH - Why do relationships have to be so hard? It is not good that I don't want to get into any more relationships because of the heartache and I am only 45! Anyone else have this problem?

donehurtn 08/24/2015

I know exactly what you're going through. I don't even want to date because I'm afraid to put my heart on the line. I dated briefly after my very tumoltuous divorce, but the minute myself or my partoner started having deep feelings, I would end it. Now the minute someone shows interest in me, I try to avoid them. It's not easy. I pray one day i'll get back to me.

caligirl92354 08/24/2015

Counseling was very good for me. The reason the breakup was so hard is that there are still issues to are needing to deal with from the divorce. Without proper healing, it's like the scab was ripped off.

I went to divorcecare after my divorce and they say that it takes 1 year for every 4 you were married to be completely healed. I would say that is accurate. Not that you can't move forward but to have your heart healed and not so sensitive. I was married 32 years and it was a long slow process.

It's tough. Nurture yourself and take time to heal. Big hugs.

jokiwhau 08/25/2015

Thanks you two! I am feeling a little better today, but still sad. I was married for 20 years, so I guess I still have some healing to do!

playerapr 08/25/2015

I'm going thru that right now. Divorced almost 4 years ago, dated briefly here and there and finally felt madly in love again and here I am heartbroken again. trying to walk away from the rubble.
The only thing that keeps me going is that if it happens once is going to happen again.
Stay strong.

LostNFound3 08/25/2015

I'm sorry you were hurt again. It definitely resonates with me too.

I have a date for a concert, and I really like her, but I'm very hesitant to try for anything more than a friendship. I have a lot of healing to do, and I don't want to burden her with that, nor mislead her as, at this point, I have no intention of marrying again ever. Not that it is even on the radar on a second date, but if that is her ultimate goal, I can't be that guy.

I haven't dated in 15 years, and I don't want to scare anyone off, nor to mislead anyone. To be honest, I'm pretty lost in that arena, so I know I'm not really ready yet.

I'm amazed you found the courage to try, and hope you'll heal and find a true partner someday.

jokiwhau 08/25/2015

Thanks - appreciate the comments - This guy definitely wants to get married and have the whole married life thing going on, and I am so not ready for that. I feel bad, but it isn't fair to him.

Appreciate the help!

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