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break up with my first love

spirituallyhealing
spirituallyhealing

I was in love in what i thought was the purest sense. I dont understand how when someone says that they will be with you forever and that you are safe with them and they will always love and be there for you, that that can some how no longer be true. when i reciprocated those words to him i meant them, and he said he did too. I'm lost. how... how do i get better. i gave him my heart and my secrets and my love. IDK where to go from here its been a month since we broke up and it stilll feels just as painful....

anna_bella.tt
anna_bella.tt
I am in the same position as you. I wake up every morning and I don't know what to do. What helped me was medication, a good friend, and focusing on other issues at hand - I had final exams. I am still in hurt, still shocked, still cannot trust, its been 7 months. I am here if you want to talk more
Stephanie
Stephanie
I wish I knew what to say. Only time. One day I promise you..you will wake up...and it just won't sting the same way anymore. My mom was married 6 years. She said it took about a year. I'm about to go through a divorce. We've been together since I was 16. I'M 43 now: (
spirituallyhealing
spirituallyhealing
he broke up with me and of course there are so many details that are the cause. and since its been a month should i tell him that i dont want to give up.... i know i shouldnt its over means its over but... once again i dont know
jojored
jojored
I'm confused. Did you officially break up? If he said very clearly that he wanted to end the relationship, then I would accept that as fact, no matter how painful it is. If, and only if he was vague, or said he needed a break, or otherwise shows concrete signs of wanting to get back together - then clarity might be in order here - find out for sure what he meant. If you do try to contact him and he doesn't respond, there's your answer.

First loves are always hard to get over. Think of them as practices for what's to come. Wisdom and understanding, figuring yourself out and learning who you really are (which are necessary for healthy long term love) come later in life, usually. Way beyond when we've already been neck deep in relationships that unfortunately often end. Take it from one who married her first love. If I had only known this back then.
dylanmurphy
dylanmurphy
This is an incredibly sad thing when it happens. I wonder how one day and the next. I am not in love with my STBX anymore. Something in my head snapped one day, I took off my ring. I hope you find your peace. It is nice to have, even though it is not complete rest from the pain. Be well.