Sounds like a good sign to move on. Don't waste your time on this guy. He doesn't feel Close and obviously isn't happy. Forget guys....you need to worry about you dear. Make yourself happy...the rest will fall into place.

its not as easy as that tho :( i need to hear from him or know wat hes doing ... he text me on sat nite saying he was flirting with someone :S im really struggling altogether iv even began self harming agen and iv not done that for ages ...:S :(

You definitely need to move on with your life, without him. You need to concentrate on yourself and making you better. You need to let go and not worry what he is or is not doing.
I do know it is way easier said than done, but he has proven he does not care about you.
Please take care of you.
Sending support and ((((((((hugs))))))

Honey do something to keep busy and please stop harming yourself. No one wants a damaged person . Look within and see the beauty of yourself. I know it hurts like hell now but it will get better. Cry, pray scream write do whatever to move on. Please get you a support team, people you can call on and talk it out. I call a friend everyday and she listens and just lets me vent it out. When I want to text my ex I text myself instead it helps some. I get out what I want to say. I will be praying for you.

Letting go to someone your emotionally atached to is the hardest thing in the world. I have been trying for over a year, so maybe my advice isn't very good, but i will give it a shot. It is worse than a death at times because there can be contact and comunication. You said he was a friend, but (please not trying to upset) in my opinion he used you and took advantage of you when you were (are) in a valnerable state. I have no idea what emotions are involved in what you have gone through and I can't even imagine, but he saw an opening to get what he wanted and really not concerned about your emotinal state or what you have gone through. To help me I went to a psyhcatrist for help and believe me it has helped me a ton. I was obsessed constantly wanting to know where she was and what she was doing. I would check my phone to see if she called or text and when she called I would do anything for her. But once I started going to these sessions it has changed alot. So I hope my advice helps you, but the one thing ou need to stop is hurting yourself, I was suicidal and I look back now and say what an idiot I was. You are a beautiful person and you will find someone who will love you for you and you will be happy. Please take care and remember you area a great beautiful person.

I think it would be wise to try to start over and stay away from him. No contact would be easier. I know its' painful, I am going through a break up and am finding that the no contact is a must for me to be OK. The more you text him or he texts you the more it is likely for you to fall back into being his victim. Friends with benefits? Who benefits? Just him I say and that is not fair when you have emotions and feelings for him but they are not returned. You have to realize that and realize he is not good for you and you can start living for yourself one day at a time I always say, just get through today, stay in the moment and don't rely on this guy texting you to survive. Let him go! he is not sensitive to you and your feelings.

This guy isn't the good guy you think. He knows so much about you and your pain and everything, yet he broke up with you (over Facebook and not face to face) and is now pushing you for "friends without benefits" sex. That's low down dirty dog stuff and you should end it with him permanently. No decent man would be doing that to you.

This guy just doesn't want to pay a prostitute so he wants FWB sex so he doesn't have to pay and has no commitment. It's really cheap, sleazy and you want to start seeing him in his real light and it's horrible

I am so sorry for all that has happened to you, and I'm sorry you met this particular man. He was not the man for you to be a permanent fixture in your life.

Please get in contact with a rape help line so they can get you help to get therapy and support for what happened to you. Once you have that help and time has passed and you are more on your feet, you might notice red flags about your "friend" that may have made you pass him by.

There are bad guys out there that look for vulnerable women. They know the signs these women give off. They engage them and get involved and then use them, sometimes abuse them, then toss them and they're on to the next. It's just a game for them.

Hey everyone thanks for your advice I appreciate it and have took on board it all sorry I haven't been on much only read these now! My friend (ex) is a old school friend who I have known for abt 6 or 7 years and is a good friend of mine he says he cares about me bt not in the same way I do:( bt yes he still asks for fwb and I sometimes agree just so I can see him and check he's ok I stayed at his last week n we had my niece with us and met friends then sat up talking till 4 am like old times :( bt I know in the end it's always me that get hurt and when he doesn't reply to my messages I get upset and text him another and it freaks him out bt he he wasn't the one who raped me that was a work collegue

I have seeked help have done for over a year I went when it first happened then stopped and went bk bt I don't think it's helping much tbh I only go cos my mum tells me to :/ and trying to get him out my head is tough :( I really still care abt him and trying to come to terms working is what keeps me busy I'm doing an 13 hour shift Tomoz :( t

Thanks agen