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slt5212
slt5212

Well about a month ago my boyfriend of 18 yrs was acting funny everything about his attitude and schedule was off. He text one night said he wasn't feeling well and was going to bed. I tried to call him but no answer so I drove to his house and his car wasn't there well that was the moment my life went to hell In a hand basket. I asked him later he said his car was there that I was crazy and over looked it. For the next week I would drive by his house and his car was nowhere to be found I even walked the apartment parking to be sure. That's when he said he was driving his brothers car because his was in the shop then like an idiot he told me what kind of car it was. I waited in a parking lot near his work and followed him after work and to my surprise he drove to another apartment complex where there sat his car that was supposed to in the shop. I hired a private detective and found out the car he was driving belonged to a girl not his brother. I found her number on his phone and called this girl and she admitted she was seeing him for the last 3 yrs wow was I shocked. She even told me they went on vacation to Florida which he denies. He claims they are just friends but he finally admitted he did have sex with her but said he wasn't interested and they are just friends. Well like a fool I told him I would forgive him because after 18 yrs it's hard to let go. Well basically  nothing has changed he has been staying at her house and turned off his phone. I haven't heard from him since July 30th I've sent text messages and I see when he turns his phone on they are read but no response then phone off again..I'm literally losing my mind thinking about him with this girl. I cant function, eat or sleep I'm so miserable that he seems like he doesn't even care even after he told me he did regret what he did. Why can't I give up on this guy.  what is wrong with me for wanting to keep someone who clearly doesn't want me. I have no one to talk to you my best friend passed away from cancer 3 yrs ago and I've been dealing with depression over that. Now I feel like I've lost everything and really dont have anywhere to turn. It's funny he comes out a winner he still has that girl and I'm still trying be stay with him I really dont get how that's possible Please any advice is welcome 

Shaner23
Shaner23
I'm sorry it sounds like he has moved on and doesn't care . Sad to say u need to move on I know it's not easy but it will be better in long run.
serenityspeaks
serenityspeaks
I am sorry this has to feel awful. You guys were together long time. It does sound like he has moved on.
slt5212
slt5212
When I ask him if we are done he says no we will take it day by day. But then he shuts off his phones. Sounds like he is either keeping me hanging on just in case it dont work with the new girl or he is just a coward and cant tell me to my face it's over he is just hoping I get the point. Which I do but after 18 yrs it's hard to be me again so hard
GirlinCalif
GirlinCalif
I'm so sorry you are dealing with this. It is going to be hard, that's for sure. 18 years is a long time. But think about how he's been gone from your relationship for the last 3 years. And he has the nerve to keep you on the side, and maybe see both of you. You can not allow him to do this to you, you are so much better than that. Try as hard as you can to have No Contact. You are not his "girl on the side", hell no to that! He can go off with this other homewrecker and see if he thinks the grass really is greener. Let's even say that you did get back with him..... could you ever trust him again? Believe anything he says? Know that he's always lying to you? Have to hire more private detectives, go follow him, etc.... Because that is what it will be like from now on if you got back with him. Show him that you will NOT be treated like this and don't take his calls, texts, e-mails... nothing. He was a jerk to you and now you show him that you don't need his lying, cheating jerk self! You can do this. You are stronger than you think. You deserve better than this! Be angry, not sad!
Crystalf
Crystalf
If you need a friend im here for you. Im going through a similar situation, and it really hurts. When someone is supposed to love you, and they just pretend. I am married, and my husband takes creeper pics of unsuspecting girls, and he’s addicted to porn, but in the years ive been with him i moved tk a city where i have no friends, and it’s lonely when you have no one to talk to. Like i said if you need a friend I understand what your going through.
jayminus
jayminus
Hello Everyone ,I have been living with my wife for some years now,she has been keeping late nights and also receiving calls late at night,i was afraid she has been cheating on me and a friend of mine introduced me to a private investigator who helped me and gave me the password to her Facebook and Gmail account and also linked all her phone conversations to me.He saved me from all her lies and infidelity,he gave me all i wanted during our divorce and helped me with evidence in court.Contact ethicalhacking618 at gmail dot com .tell him i referred you he will help you
jstar845
jstar845
Hello, Thanks for sharing. I extend my condolences on the loss of your beloved friend. I am sorry to hear your boyfriend did this to you and you don't deserve this. It's difficult when this happens but know you don't deserve to be treated this way. I believe once you get away from him you won't feel this pain. I wish you the best.
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