I don't really know if there are any great books out there for this. I have read a couple exerpts from some that I have found useful. I think you just need to evaluate what emotions to hang onto and the payoff for you, and what to let go. Holding onto anger can make you physically ill, as I can attest to right now. Take one day at a time to figure things out and try not to let him push your buttons. Sometimes, easier said than done, I understand that too. Have a great day and try to let go, even if it's only for a few hours. (((rose)))

There is one called "The Dance of Anger."

http://www.amazon.com/Dance-Anger-Changing-Patterns-Relationships/dp/006074104X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1328721176&sr=8-1

I do not know of any. The passage of time allowed me to heal and stopped feeling angry at my ex because it was hurting me not him.

I hope the passage of time will put things into perspective. Letting go of angry feelings is a process. Anger serves a purpose as long as you do not hurt yourself or someone else.

Hugs to you.

I'm writing one. It's called "Up yours, you don't deserve me".

To be followed by "I'm not wasting any more time hating you"

I like this author: http://www.amazon.com/Anger-Cooling-Thich-Nhat-Hanh/dp/1573229377

I have read only excerpts from this one, but it seems to be a good book.

Anger,, Handling a Powerful Emotion in a Healthy Way by Gary Chapman.

I know anger is one of the last steps of grieving before acceptance. So even if it is emotionally draining now, just know that eventually, you will come out of this stronger, and happier, it just takes time.

For me, getting over anger was actually the easiest part for me. I had spent my entire relationship being angry, so by the time we broke up, I just didn't have the energy for it anymore.

Also, I have learned that anger is just a secondary emotion that we use when we are afraid to admit to how we really feel. Anger is easier, so we have to look deep inside and reflect on how we really feel and what the anger is covering up. That knowledge has really helped me out. Also, its important to understand your own triggers. How do you start to feel physically when you are getting angry, if you are more aware of your own body, you will better be able to stop the anger before it gets out of control. That is what I am working on, and it really helps.

Xanax also helps, lol.

Thanks I am going to look up the books that where suggested. Newagain thanks you gave me a laugh that I needed.
Historynerd28 you are right about a lot of what you said, I suppose that I have so much other emotions in me besides the anger that I have not resolved. I don't know I guess I have to figure out why he can still push my buttons with such hatred that it makes me crazy. My whole marriage was him getting so mad, and me backing down. I think that now I just want to show him I am not that person he can push around. I don't know that might just be part of it, I think its also still the old anger and resentment I never got to get out on him I never got to scream and tell him to go to hell, I never got to tell him I don't believe you and your lies, and It is eating me away and I need to get past it. My therapist tells me that by divorcing him I did this but that is not a physical release.

"Peace is Every Step" - Thich Nhat Hanh