I was bitter for a bit. When I sold a home after the divorce, while standing in the driveway waiting for the lazy fat ass idiotic and always late ex-husband to show up, both the buyer (a divorcee) and realtor (a divorcee) said to me, "Oh, it's better the second time around!!!" referring to a super fabulous awesome second marriage or significant relationship. Like we were in some sort of fun divorcee's girl's club.

I wanted to give both the finger. I had not asked for a comment on my divorce nor did I want an uplifting encouraging meaningless statement from them. I just wanted to sell the house and never have to return.

People can be insensitive. Give people the virtual finger all you want, and pull up your shields.

By the way, it bothers me less and less as time has moved on. I'm pretty sure I'm not dating again, and no way would I EVER get married again. They say "never say never" but I know, I won't do it again.

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its normal and there is no correct timeline
it is healthy to be mad at being treated like shit

It is my understanding that those who hang onto bitterness and anger are extremely successful in moving on and finding happiness. Good luck!! :)

Jojored and refurb, thanks for your input. It helps to to hear feedback that makes one feel less alone. Cora Belle, thanks for the sarcasm. Not sure why you are on this forum if you can't understand that there is a grieving process that takes time and includes anger. No one said anything abut hanging on to it. It's there until it's not.

Maybe Cora hasn't gotten to that part of this "journey"?

even if i'm not entirely bitter about the fact that i don't have a partner, the people who say things like that will forever piss me off. i think what pisses me off the most about those statements is that it makes it seem like it's so easy to find love and stay in love, and they just have such a perfect, wonderful relationship. it's disgusting. luckily i get my moment of euphoria as well, when two weeks later the honeymoon phase wears off and they start fighting and ultimately finding out they're terrible for each other. :')
that's my opportunity to smile and say, "just wait, it'll happen again one day!!"

anger and bitterness is so normal, ESPECIALLY after just breaking up. you're not a terrible person by any means and i have no doubt you are going to get past this and move on. you don't need to beat yourself up for being angry about someone who hurt you.

Thanks all, it Ian super helpful to hear your feedback. I am usually a pretty positive person and have really been struggling with how hard it's been not to be cynical since the breakup 5 months ago. I really appreciate you all making me feel more "normal."