Sounds like you are doing better. Remember to look for things each day to be grateful for. Today be grateful that you have a business to return to. Be grateful to have strength that you didn't cry today. Sounds like you're starting to get back onto your feet. Good work and hugs.

And I need you too! It's friends like you that have made this transition so much better. So....me? I'm not going anywhere:)

I'm so relieved that you are feeling a bit better today! I just had to pump my fist in the air when I read your post. It will get easier.

Why that foolish man thinks he should get part of your business is ridiculous. Obviously if he contributed in anyway to your business it was because he wanted to at the time. Just because he turned into a jerk doesn't mean he can ask for accommodations of any type now!

Much love and huge hugs!!
Deb

Needafriend, expect the ups and the downs. Its all part of the healing. So your not failing if your down, your not all done if your up. :) The downs get shorter and less dark, and the ups get longer and brighter. You go girl! Hes so stupid. Playing on your heart strings, boo hoo, while asking to be put on the business. Wow. Heres your sign. My ex called me today, asking about the kids who are sick, I said you saw them this weekend when you were home and you didn't have any sympathy or care for them then. Why are you calling? Then he says, Im so depressed..blah blah. I told him, I have no sympathy for you, because you had none for them. Or me. What do you expect? Part of me felt bad, ,like aw Im so mean, but then we kinda have to be sometimes you know? It doesn't make us mean people, its just stopping the doormat syndrome we have gotten used to allowing. BIG HUGS. Props to you for doing so well. :)

That's fantastic, Need! Be happy with every little victory. I know I'm smiling just reading your post simply because you're having a better day. You're being really strong today, not answering him, and I'm glad to hear that you're starting to eat again. 7 weeks...yeah, that was right about when I started being able to eat again. I still had to make myself do it sometimes but it started being easier.

*hugs* We're definitely not going anywhere! You help other people here too, you know. And it's a pleasure and a privilege to be able to be here for you as well.

Excellent! Like AsTime said, keep looking for things to be grateful for....that helped me so much.

As far as you needing us, well lets just say that I have been a member on this forum for almost ten months...some have been here for years...we give and take from each other and that is what helps us to be strong. I am not going anywhere so feel free to lean as long and as hard as you want:)

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I'm so happy to hear you've reached your first moment of feeling better! You should be so proud of all the steps you've taken. There will be more times you have to work through but you've just proved that you can get through this.

You always have people to turn to. Good job,you!

Ah yes, those first few weeks. I remember them well. They were agonizing but take heart...it does get better, so hang in there!

So glad to hear you are feeling a bit better. I know what a roller coaster ride of emotions that it can be.
I too started taking an antidepressant and I seriously can still remember the day that I was like "wow, I think this stuff is working".

You just keep coming here and leaning on us whenever...we are here for you!

My wow I think these things are working happened over the weekend

so has my insatiable appetite

Thankyou to you all. i have some wonderful friends on here. All of you are pulling me through this and i couldnt do it without you. you are my strength and my hope.
He recons because he bought a lot of my machinery to help me set up the business, that he is part of it. and he said he could get some men in to come into my work and just take what belongs to him.
If he does that il be out of work and i rely on it obviously for my income. Can he do that ?
Before i met him i had been on my own for 10 years, i was a single parent and i had a job that i worked in for 9 years.
He was the one that pushed me into opening this business and Quiting my other job.
I know most of you live in a different state to me , so i dont know if the same thing apply when it comes to things like this.
He is making it sound like ive taken all his help and he is the injured party.
I still live in a rented house that i have had for over 10 yrs.
when we married he moved in with me.
He has a property that he then rented out ( to my daughter at the time, the one he was seeing behind my back).
He now lives there himself and she has moved out as you know..
I told him leave my business alone and i will leave his property alone. not that i want his property because i dont.
I just want to keep my business. why should he have it all. He is the one that betrayed me. I do wish i had kept my other job and not get pushed into the business as he holds me to ransom over it all the time. I have built this business myself on my own. He has a job

I don't think he has a chance at getting your business. He never said 'I want a partnership in your business, I'll buy these parts and then I'll have a share.' There was never any agreement, no contract. Other than the marital contract that he defaulted on!! He bought those things for you as a gift because he believed in you and your dream. That would be like my husband demanding I put his name on my book because he bought me the computer I used to type it up.

I think that's why he's so desperate for you to put his name on the business now....he wants you to believe him, or worry he can take machinery if he doesn't get his way.

You keep on smiling....it will make him scared you're up to something:):):)

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Change the locks on the place so he can't get in. Then call the cops if he tries. What he does or doesn't get is up to the court to decide during your divorce. Let the lawyers worry about it. Again, I think you really need to stop reading his texts/listening to his messages. He gets you all worked up and then you backslide. You will stay much stronger if you stop all the contact with him. You were doing better. Keep it up!

I have already changed the locks and am ready to fight him on that if i have to. Im just fed up off him making me feel as if ive ripped him off. He was the one that wrecked our marriage, not me.
I will be getting some legal advice also.

Good for you! Now stop reading his messages. Nothing good comes from reading them. He's full of crap and is just trying to get under your skin, and you know it's working. Stop letting him get to you. Cut him off. Remember how much better you felt after not having contact with him? You can feel like that most of the time. You are doing so well. Keep it up!

ABSOLUTELY, do not give your husband anything from your business. He doesn't get to demand or ask for anything. It's YOUR business and he gets nothing. If he shows up or has men show up to take machinery, call the police to have them removed immediately--no discussion, they are removed because they don't belong there.

You are in the midst of breaking him of some very bad habits and it will take a while. Once he realizes you are getting stronger, it will be tougher for him.

Also find the things to be grateful for today.