New to this forum, hoping to get some relief. After being Married for 23 years and separated for nine months my wife and I finally were able to break down some walls and get along much better. We have two adult children one away at school and one home. After spending the last few weeks together I realized i had more feelings than I thought and she seemed to as well but we kept our boundaries, we were actually flirting again and calling each honey than I noticed some things seemed a little off with how she was acting and caught her in a lie and found her at a guys house that we both new though our daughters friend that was recently divorced. I confronted her and she said they were on;y friends supporting each other than after several more lies came the fact that she did have feelings for him but hasn't reacted on them. That was the nail in the coffin. It is devastating to feel this sense of betrayal. I feel so emotional that she could look me in the eye and lie to me. I feel like the last several years were not real. Very Sad today!