I got little warning before getting mine, just a letter from his lawyer telling me I was going to be getting papers so I needed to have my lawyer contact her. I didn't even know I needed to get a lawyer until then! Supposed to take a year apart and work on our respective shit. Got served 7 months later. Oh well, it was for the best anyway. Just know that getting served is only the first step in a very long, drawn-out process, unless you are both agreeable. Sorry you're going through this.

Feel like soooo sorry for you.. I know when I get to that point it will not feel good either way.. if I get served or he does.. Its still an end. the death of a marriage ... a relationship... It's so hard...

I can't say I yet know how you feel but I can imagine.

I would only say get some sleep.. it's sometimes the only place there is peace... be with people please don't just stay alone.. it will only make the pain.. memories... feelings worse...

You need people now more then ever.. glad your back here...

I am here for you.. we all are..

Grrr, for crying out loud. So apparently no, it's not happening tonight either (it was supposed to be yesterday). He 'got the order wrong' of what he needs to do and has to do something at the courthouse first so now I won't be served until Tuesday.

This dragging it out is getting harder and harder on me. :(

Get that frustration out. Make a voodoo doll and stick it in the cat litterbox. My cat The Boss (she's the Cat Mafia Boss) believes in "burying the bodies" in a litterbox where they'll never be found.

Doesn't it leave you feeling like you've committed a crime?

Ooh voodoo doll! That sounds like the purrfect weekend craft project! Thanks for the suggestion. LOL

Omg...@astime...that is too f'n funny! I'm still laughing about that and, I think I'm gonna use that! lmao!

That comes from my cat The Boss.

Well Bravo to the Cat!!

Feeling, Im so sorry. I was thinking about you this week, wondering if you were ok. I didn't hear from you, but I was so sick I didn't send you a message and I should have. Im sorry. Big hug girl. I know that has to be hard. :( Hang in there, don't try to handle it alone. We are here for you. XXXXX

Oh and BTW, Astimegoes, your awesome

I understand the need to want to go on protective hibernation but feeling bad when u need to do that for yourself to get better. Most of the time I want to be with people and talk to them but when u r going through some hard things with yourself sometimes you might want to do this.

I liked the voodoo doll idea too.

As I said above, this may be only the first step in a very long, drawn-out process. It won't be done overnight, so you have to learn to roll with the punches a little. The wheels of justice can turn very slowly in divorce court.

Oh, I didn't cut myself off entirely from the support group, I just went publicly radio silent and only returned a few private messages but thank you for your concern everyone.

I spent the day trying not to dwell on the bad or thinking about tomorrow night (the serving will be at work because that's what fits with his schedule... and I've gotten used to the fact that *I* have to be the one to adapt to his precious schedule or else things just don't get done, they just get put off over and over). I took myself off to a movie, walking there for the exercise, and then picked up salad stuff for lunches for the week. I'm just a whisker away from losing 30 pounds, yay me! And I have a girlfriend coming over tonight for our usual girl-time and Big Bang marathon.

Time enough to deal with tomorrow when it's tomorrow. Assuming it does happen tomorrow and not next week. ;p