Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
At work today, I saw many couples coming in to have their taxes prepared. During this time, I began to wonder how happy these people were in their relationships. I got the feeling that many people put on a 'front,' appearing to have a happy relationship. You just never know what goes on behind closed doors. I mean, my parents think that my wife and I are happily married. They have no clue that my wife basically dumped my ass. If you ever get the chance to watch the movie "American Beauty." The movie takes you inside the lives of what appear typical American families. On the outside, they look like they are living the American dream. Marriage, kids, a house in the suburbs, with a white picket fence. But, on the inside, it is a different story. Just a thought...
why would you deprive yourself of the ONE place that you KNOW you will recieve support...
I know that, regardless of how my divorce goes... even if i screw up... my mom and dad will be there to support me and help me figure thigns out...
dude... you need to spill it with them... they can help you
When I talked to her a few weeks ago about my own marriage, she said that her husband was angry, the marriage was a disaster, her son was in counseling, and her daughter just behaved compliantly to please her dad. Yet she won't get a divorce and continues to act to most of the world like everything is happy.
In my personal situation, we appeared to have it all together. Everyone thought we were the happy, perfect couple/family. And honestly, so did I. But apparently I was fooled and he had been wearing a mask for longer than I could have imagined.
the truth will set you free....
So it was a shock to people when they found out about the abuse. None of them had any clue what I had gone through for so long. If any of them had known just how bad the abuse was, they would have fallen over with a heart attack. One person said they couldn't imagine me putting up with that because I was a strong person.
Appearances can be very deceiving.
I was in big time denial about my marriage on how bad it really was especially in the beginning....
the truth will set you free, but it will hurt, but it will make you stronger in the end...
I think alot of marriages are in denial....sad, but a part of me is glad i was able to finally accept mine was over. That I deserve better and there is a light at the end of this crappy tunnel.
I've moved on - just couldn't do it anymore.
Lynne
My ex was very much this way and no one ever knew that we had issues because she kept up a very nice public appearance. Most people had no idea what was lurking in the hidden depths when it came to my wife and many were surprised that she had a mean streak.
A lot of couples are probably that way. The thing is that you then begin to wonder what percentage of married couples are actually happy.
Sometimes I wonder about the whole idea of marriage. It is still appealing to me but at the same time you are taking one hell of a gamble on something with less than 50/50 odds. There are a lot of people out there that feel that it won't happen to them, I know that I did once.
The fact of the matter is that I would still be married to her had she not cheated regardless of her narcissism. The infidelity was the one thing that I couldn't accept so here I am.
That's all behind me now and I was never one to put up a false front so I believe that there are many happy couples out there. Their marriages will hum along until something triggers a "stress test".
- I kept my family in the dark for over a year, and only told them when I knew I was completely over my head.
I didn't want to tell them, because I didn't want to admit defeat, or have them think badly of her (we may work it out, so why even tell them).
Now she is gone, and my family are a huge help.
They only wonder why I didn't tell then sooner.
I will be thinking of you. And remind me not to pet your cat. lol