My Dr. prescribed a glass of wine and melatonin an hour before bedtime. It works, and I get strange comments about a Dr. advising someone to drink, but it's only 1 glass, and it's better than taking prescription sleep meds.

Melatonin is wonderful. I also find Tylenol PM helps, but thats because I have headaches from all of the stress. Buy a body pillow and snuggle to it. Or a pet. I have two cats that sleep with me. Pets are very theraputic. I like cats because I don't have to rush home to let them out after work. And they greet me at the door when I do come home.

I won't drink alcohol because even small amounts will knocay.k me out, but I have a horrible reaction to even half a glass the next d

I always try the more natural routes. Lavender spray on pillow, bath salts, music, tea, exercise.

I'm sorry you are so sad. I don't know how to help you - possibly reading.

Just sending lots of support

I am at the same place.....
I sleep with the tv on but it still doesnt help my mind from stopping... I cant sleep... I have tried the vitamins and the alcohol and it works to put me to sleep after a while but I only sleep for a few hours then I am up and my mind wont stop....
I miss having someone lay next to me... he wasnt a very good sleeper and he would be up all night and watch tv channel surfing or he when he did sleep he snored so loud it was actually hilarious but it is what i got used to and how i learned how to sleep.... I have so many issues with sleeping but I hope it will pass...
I dont have great advice to tell you how to get over it but I do believe it will pass and in an ironic way in the long run we will both be so used to the way we sleep now that it will be so hard to cope with sleeping in the same bed with someone else in the future again.... in a year, two years, five years from now we will both think back to these posts and just smile...
I believe it will get better cause it has to... the only way we have to go is up from here... the only thing that will bring us down is ourselves and we have both been thru to much to let that happen....

I am here for you and I hope all of you are here for me as well!!!

Speaking form experience you have to cry and cry and cry and then cry some more.

It sure doesn't feel like it at the beginning but one night you won't cry, and then it might be two night and before you know it it will have been a month.

You have to feel this feelings and let them out. Its is your minds way of coping and dealing with it all.

Its hard to do but my therapist told me that I wouldn't begin to recover until I had had 3 long drawn out crying spells. NOt just crying for a few minutes but crying for a one or two days straight.

At the time I thought he was deranged, who would lay on the bathroom floor sobbing and crying for hours. Well it turns out I would, and did three times.

Once on the night he moved out, second time when he took them for a week at Christmas and again for some reason at the 8 month mark.

I was so so sad, and in the end it did help to just get it all out.

So cry those tears, and feel those feelings, I promise you it will get better