I have the same problem I put music on but does not always work for the best. So now I put a tv show on and let the tv put me to bed instead of my head thinking!

I have the same problem I put music on but does not always work for the best. So now I put a tv show on and let the tv put me to bed instead of my head thinking!

I have the same problem I put music on but does not always work for the best. So now I put a tv show on and let the tv put me to bed instead of my head thinking!

I understand what you feel like.
Possibly a warm bath will help ?

As Jame said, I usually go to sleep with the TV on now, which helps me a lot. When I first moved into my apartment alone, I didn't have a TV in the bedroom, but eventually I broke down and got a small one for in there just to help me get to sleep. Even though financially it may not have been the best decision, it has paid me back a thousand-fold in helping me get to sleep at night!

You are right ! something playing in the background ! some sound !
some voices

Sorry for the 3 of the same post last night! But yeah just sounds work for me it keeps my head not thinking of the situation so much and finally can fall asleep! And a warm bath before bed helps me now also always taking a warm bath now!

Thank you everyone! I take a long shower every night and love how the water soothes me. I'm not upset until I get into bed. I have never been one to sleep with the TV on because its normally a distraction, but I will try it tonight and maybe set the timer on it.

I also have a stack of books to read next to the bed, and I use my phone to come on here too before I tr & sleep, just to let out what's running around my brain. I've also moved to the middle of the bed, so it's not so empty.

One of my favorite song...

I brush my teeth and put the cap back on and I know you hate it when I leave the light on.

I pick up a book, turn the sheets down and take a deep breath, a good look around....

Put on my pjs and hop in to bed. I'mahold alive but I feel mostly dead, I, try and tell myself it'll be alright, I shouldn't think anymore tonight cuz....

Dreams last for so long, even after you're gone, I know, you loved me and soon yOu know you will see, you were meant for me and I was meant for you.

I'm trying to figure that one out myself. Crying takes so much out of me that I fall asleep and as soon as I know it it is mornin and time to try to get through and LIVE another day. If you figure this one out, let me know.

Well, my recommendation is to feel the sadness, let it come up, cry and let it go. May happen for a bit, but those feelings are there, and won't go away until they're detoxed from your system. They can't be avoided forever, and its unhealthy to carry them around. I just feel them now and let them go. Keeping perpetually busy makes you a human doing, not a human being, and will become exhausting. The key is to feel them, and let them go, not wallow in them. Its normal to grieve our losses. Even if its for the greater good, we may still feel sadness and loss.

For what it's worth, when the bedroom and night feel like the devil to me, I leave a few lights on, the television low, and sleep on the sofa with my pups. It gets rather crowded, by there's some kind of twisted comfort in all those gangly limbs sprawled all over the place.

Im having the same problem. I like to listen to music or just talk to friends at night trying to get my mind off of him.... it seems to be helping for me.

What I find helpful is doing some exercise in the day because that with the crying makes you tired and sleep comes quite soon.. I also drink valerian tea which tastes like pond water but sends you off to sleep! And if I'm still struggling I listen to a relaxation/mindfulness/meditation audio on my iPod. But I agree that you need to let yourself feel sad and not bury your feelings. Good luck x