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Odd enough this is true. I have had several times in my life where I have had something happen to me and said "Awe man, that is some bad luck." Later on, way down the road, I look back at it and say "Damn I am glad that happened." Often times we judge the nature of our luck at the very point when it is happening rather than seeing what the outcome of it is. Bad things do happen for reasons.
I am beginning to believe the same is true about my divorce. Honestly the stress of my marriage was poison to my life and it was slowly killing me. Now that it is gone the stress is gone. It is a hell of a lot easier to manage my own account and deal with things myself than have a very self centered and stubborn person to contend with as well.
The same is true about leaving my old job. I always had to watch my back and friends would turn on your for personal gain. Those aren't really friends, as we all know, but they were wolves in sheep's clothing.
Bad things still happen and sometimes they have no point. This was like my arm breaking or my heart attack. Then again, something positive may have come out of this and I will never know.
I am sure that a lot of us can relate to this. It happens to all of us and we hate to see "Bad Things" happen but in the end there may be a purpose for these bad things and they can become good things.
Maybe all of us should step back and try not to judge our luck at the time it happens and not immediately call it bad luck.
I am beginning to believe the same is true about my divorce. Honestly the stress of my marriage was poison to my life and it was slowly killing me. Now that it is gone the stress is gone. It is a hell of a lot easier to manage my own account and deal with things myself than have a very self centered and stubborn person to contend with as well.
The same is true about leaving my old job. I always had to watch my back and friends would turn on your for personal gain. Those aren't really friends, as we all know, but they were wolves in sheep's clothing.
Bad things still happen and sometimes they have no point. This was like my arm breaking or my heart attack. Then again, something positive may have come out of this and I will never know.
I am sure that a lot of us can relate to this. It happens to all of us and we hate to see "Bad Things" happen but in the end there may be a purpose for these bad things and they can become good things.
Maybe all of us should step back and try not to judge our luck at the time it happens and not immediately call it bad luck.
~Joe
http://dailystrength.org/c/Breakups_Divorce/forum/6366767-life-funny-way
My Dad always said life is a perspective problem; is rain good or bad? Depends on if you are farming or going on a picnic. When it rains, I'll be a farmer and be glad. When it's sunny, I'll pack a basket and rejoice.
My last 11 years destroyed me, one thing at a time, every even year, in Feb or Mar. Yeah, I miss my money, my health, my mom, my marriage and my career, but except for my mom, the rest seemed to work out great (for someone).
I keep thinking What If I didn't get MS... well, then, my DAD & BROTHER WOULD BE DEAD a year or two by now. I wouldn't have started LDN 4/03, and when they got DX with stomach cancer 3/07, given SIX months to live, he'd be gone by now. When my bro got sarcoidosis running rampant, he started it 4/07. Both are alive and stable. I'm stable too.
If I didn't lose all my money, the debt SHE gave us probably would have just kept going up up up... fueling her spending even more, and it wouldn't have been a factor in ending the marriage. Both of the above were factors in the last few years.
Losing my marriage and career turns out to be the final loss of chains, I'm nearly fully independent to live as stress-free as possible to keep my health at the best level.
I just had this discussion with my 14 yr old son. There's a lot more in there than I'd post publicly, but those are the highlights. More details is in my 1/4/09 journal.
It's been a wild ride... of LOSS... and now all that loss has shown potential going forward... THIS may be THE year to put it all together and turn things around