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henryreilly 04/27/2010

I did something incredibly stupid, thoughtless and self-centered which caused my fiancee` to end our relationship. We've still been communicating a little bit, mostly because she has to come back for her furniture and other items. I just have a bad feeling that things are not going to go well when she comes back with a truck and a car load of her friends to get her things.

Any advice on keeping this event civil?

deleted_user 04/27/2010

Well, don't provoke her comes to mind. If she provokes you, don't engage?

mavsgirl 04/27/2010

Is there any way you can avoid being there when she comes back?

deleted_user 04/27/2010

I agree with mavsgirl...is there any way to not be there when she goes to pick up her things? Maybe you can have a friend stay if you are worried about them taking things that are yours? Can you move her things outside the house before they get there? That way she doesn't even have to bother you.

If you must be there or even feel the need to be there, then as TD says, don't engage. If she tries to stir you up, take the high road and let it go.

Best of luck.

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