to be honest with you yeah i want to get back with my ex even after she lied and cheated on me and apparently her husband part of me is hopping that she can come back with some kinda of excuse for lying to me or to be honest any kind of lie i feel like i would come running back. But i want a real relationship not the fake one she was giving me

I dont remember my ex because of a car accident last year messed up my memories, but I know I did my part in being wrong. From what I come to discover about my ex, she was and still is evil. I just have to wonder if it had to do with my bad behavior and if I have changed, could she and we save out life together? Wanting back with her? I dont know, but I cant help but wonder if there is a chance cause I am not the same person I was.

First offhello old friends. I stop in to read the post and responses just to remind myself how far my journey has brought me. I see new folks who are experiencing the lowest of the lows, the folks who have made significant progress towards personal growth, and those who have somewhat completed their journeys and stay to offer wise advise.

Like so many here, I had nowhere to turn when my wife announced her desire to end our 20 year marriage. No words (at that point) could describe the pain and loss I felt in those early days, weeks, and months. The advice I found here saved my sanity. First day by day, and then week by week..

As I shared with many of the old timers here, my relationship with my ex was unusual in that we remained close and friendly. Our marriage didnt end to the cancer of infidelity, addiction, money problems, or any of the big marriage killers.

My wife simply blamed her unhappiness on our marriage and desire to be alone. What lurked in the shadows was the chemical imbalance that haunted her every month. She didnt simply suffer from PMS but an elevated form of PMDD (http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-... ).
Last spring she had a laparoscopic hysterectomy which restored her emotional state to a level that I havent witnessed since her 20s.

Fast forward.we started talking about what drove us apart and why those issues were not dealt with. We spent additional time together where old feelings seemed to spark.

Not being nave and immature, we decided to bring a professional into the picture and explore couples counseling before we went public with our decision to reconcile. Especially because we didnt want to damage further the emotional state of our 16 year old son. We continue to see this awesome counselor who has shown us how to be a stronger couple by being complete happy individuals.

This is where I feel guilty posting here. Fast forward even further we have moved her into my home. We are selling our marital home and have plans next spring to build a new home for our new beginning. Our son is thrilled. God has answered our prayers and it seems his plans are for us to join hands and walk though life together.

We will remarry on the beach on the 23rd of this month. New anniversary date for a new beginning.

I only share this because I want everyone to see that every outcome is different because Gods plan for each of us is different.

The only consistent Ive witnessed here on DS the last couple of years is the answers people find in their faith. So keep the faith.

God Speed

Never

No. There came a moment for me that was so sudden and so permanent that I can' teen imagine putting myself back into the depression that had me paralyzed. We split and reconciled once six years ago. At that time I wept daily and wished for him back desperately. I was obsessed with this idea that we were soul mates and his infidelities were somehow my fault. When I look back on my marriage from my life today I see the patterns of verbal and emotional abuse that battered me into my fragile emotional state and I never, ever want to relive those years. Not to mention that my 16yo daughter would suffer. Her relationship with her father is so much better when they don't live together. His verbal abuse knows no bounds.

Hi, I too am someone who betrayed my spouse. I am full of regret over my actions. I can say now that we have been separated for almost a year that I would love to be back with her. It could, nor should not be what it was. If things could be different I would go back right now. Unfortunately, my cheating has led to that being seen as the only problem with our marriage. I believe if it was ever to truly work again we would have to look deeply into each other and all aspects of our lives. I don't think she would do that. At this point she won't even look at me when we exchange custody. My only plan is to continue to work on myself and become a better man, love my daughter and be the best parent I am capable of, and leave the rest up to God.

No you are not the only one. If she were to come back yesterday, today or tomorrow, I'd take her back. I just wouldn't want what we had, I'd want so much more and better.

I wouldn't wish her on anybody, even on the piece of shit that she cheated with